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Not fit for work?

SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
in Health & Wellbeing
So I thought I was well enough to go work. But I didn't last an hour and got called to HR for them to tell me I'm not fit for work. They said i have 4 weeks still of sick note from doctors so they can't have me. And they said i I don't seem well enough and that my supervisor and manger told her I was shaky and dont seem well.
I was off for depression so I thought it didn't matter what the doctor wrote and what i felt like but turns out I had to go home.
I think I'm fine. I'm not getting any sick pay and earning no money. My doctors aren't open on weekend so have to take tomorrow off as well. Is it possible to get a fit for work note? Otherwise im getting paid nothing for another month
“And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley

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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,052 Supreme Poster
    I'm not sure but it might be worth getting an appointment on Monday to ask about it?
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    Thank you for replying! I think I will see my doctors on Monday and ask.
    Just wanted to go work all weekend as a distraction.
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • AoifeAoife Community Manager Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    Hey Shaunie, I'm sorry to hear that your work sent you home and said you were not fit for work. That's good you can see your GP on Monday, they should be able to answer any questions you may have. The gov.uk Fit For Work website here might be useful to have a look at for expert advice around this. You can also chat online here to a specialist advisor or speak to an advisor on 0800 032 6235.

    Hope that helps, wishing you all the best :)
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    Thsnk you for your replies. Did get my fit to work note.
    And just came back from work from first day back. I did my return to work and my manger and supervisor was really lovely and nice about it and supportive.
    But when I was working a different manger came up to me (who knew why and that I was off sick from when I rang in) and he was like "haven't seen you in a while" " how was your partying" as a joke like oh yeah off for depression isnt actually being ill. I honestly was so shocked so didn't say much. Just said "what, sorry...no?" And he gave me the most dirtiest look ever. Honestly could of fucking slapped that off his face. Cause being locked up in hospital was a real jolly and a right barrel of laughs.
    It's sad that people still have their on owns views on mental health and it's not being a reason to be off sick and work for.
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • AoifeAoife Community Manager Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    Hey Shaunie,

    Really great that your return to work went well with your manager and supervisor, it can make such a difference when people are lovely and supportive. I'm really sorry to hear about the other manager, this really isn't nice for anyone to go through. I think you've touched on a really important point about there still being a lot of stigma around mental health. On the Time To Change website, there's some blog posts from other people who have experienced mental health stigma at work which might be interesting to read.

    Do keep us updated and let us know how things are going with this manager. If you feel you are being treated differently because of your mental health problem this may be discrimination and might be against the law. On the Time To Change website, they have some really useful advice on what to do, I've included some of this information below:
    • Talk to someone you trust
    • If your organisation has an Employee Assistance Programme, consider contacting them (this is an employee benefit programme that helps employees deal with personal and/or work related problems. Their services usually include assessment, short-term counselling and referral services).
    • Find out if your organisation has a mental health policy or one on bullying and harassment
    • Find out more about your rights
    • Take a look at our Get Support Page

    - Aife

    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
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