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Struggling to cope after break up, feel worthless
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Hi, 24 years old work full time and live alone
So my story is that I broke up with a girlfriend of 6 months not too long ago, she was only my second girlfriend and the first one I had lasted one month, i was dumped by both of them.
I just felt that I can't quite cut it when it comes to women, I believe i was good to her and we did so much together, it was mainly long distance but when she moved to uni that's when things went wrong, and a few months into the year she called it off, saying she weren't ready for a relationship and that there was nothing wrong with what I did. I went with that saying there's nothing i could've done, I understand that's what she wanted and I respected that.
But recently I found out that a few weeks after we broke up, she rung up to tell me she was "seeing" this other guy, she denied a relationship and she said it only lasted two weeks, but now I feel utterly betrayed and that deep down she didnt really want to be with me at any point. I just dont know what to make of it because im a nice guy so I didnt react in a bad way, saying that she was brave to actually tell me that. My lack of experience means that I just dont know what to make of it all, but i've recently became very depressed because I now believe that my personality just isnt in any way agreeable with most girls, and that i'll never be able to find anyone.
I dont know how I should react to my ex, because we kept in touch as friends after but now i dont want to talk to her because I have been deeply hurt by hearing what she did. I just feel that i cannot be loved. She said that she had strong feelings but never anything more. Im terrible at this so I dont know what to make of it all, but two breakups in a year really took its toll and now i just believe that im destined for loneliness.
Any help/advice would be appreciated
So my story is that I broke up with a girlfriend of 6 months not too long ago, she was only my second girlfriend and the first one I had lasted one month, i was dumped by both of them.
I just felt that I can't quite cut it when it comes to women, I believe i was good to her and we did so much together, it was mainly long distance but when she moved to uni that's when things went wrong, and a few months into the year she called it off, saying she weren't ready for a relationship and that there was nothing wrong with what I did. I went with that saying there's nothing i could've done, I understand that's what she wanted and I respected that.
But recently I found out that a few weeks after we broke up, she rung up to tell me she was "seeing" this other guy, she denied a relationship and she said it only lasted two weeks, but now I feel utterly betrayed and that deep down she didnt really want to be with me at any point. I just dont know what to make of it because im a nice guy so I didnt react in a bad way, saying that she was brave to actually tell me that. My lack of experience means that I just dont know what to make of it all, but i've recently became very depressed because I now believe that my personality just isnt in any way agreeable with most girls, and that i'll never be able to find anyone.
I dont know how I should react to my ex, because we kept in touch as friends after but now i dont want to talk to her because I have been deeply hurt by hearing what she did. I just feel that i cannot be loved. She said that she had strong feelings but never anything more. Im terrible at this so I dont know what to make of it all, but two breakups in a year really took its toll and now i just believe that im destined for loneliness.
Any help/advice would be appreciated
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