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Can i make my sister ill?

Firstly sorry for all the posts but this is something ive been concerned for a while. So i have a diagnosis of anorexia. My sister is my younge caarer to make sure i eat. But its shouldnt be her job.
She is my twin, so we are quite close. We go to the sane college and work place. And wonder if my habits rub on to her?
I feel like when i dont want to eat i feel like im putting it in her head that its wrong to be eating. She wont go to any support groups with me.
I may just be parnoid but it looks like shes losing weight.
It makes me eat because the last thing is for her to become anorexic aswell. I dont want to make someone ill. I dont know what to do if i think shes becoming anorexic. The guilt would just get too much.
She is my twin, so we are quite close. We go to the sane college and work place. And wonder if my habits rub on to her?
I feel like when i dont want to eat i feel like im putting it in her head that its wrong to be eating. She wont go to any support groups with me.
I may just be parnoid but it looks like shes losing weight.
It makes me eat because the last thing is for her to become anorexic aswell. I dont want to make someone ill. I dont know what to do if i think shes becoming anorexic. The guilt would just get too much.
~Probably dead now
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Happy New Year! Don't be sorry for posting, that's what we're here for! It might be worth discussing this with your sister and talk to her about how you're feeling
Have a great day! Look forward to hearing from you soon
Drea
Thank you for replying.
Ive tried asking professionals and expects about this but they dont say much. And family just get over looked.
I asked my sister why shes wasnt eating as much, she didnt say much and i know she would keep it to her self if she was concerned about her wieght.
I feel quite helpless.
I'm sorry to hear that professionals and experts have not been able to say much or give you advice about your twin sister. From reading your posts, it is clear that you care a lot about your sister and it is okay for you to be finding things difficult too. For some people, having someone in the family with an eating disorder can be a challenging time because they feel forgotten as the attention from their parents is not the same as it used to be. There is an interesting article by Anorexia and Bulimia Care about siblings and the effect an eating disorder has on them. I have linked it here and you might find it helpful to read. Have you been able to speak to anyone else in your family about your sister or any of her friends?
Do feel free to keep posting here whenever you like, we are here for you
My parents never cared in the first place. Which is why she is my carer, so not sure whether she feels she not got attention.
But really shes not actually my carer cause she dont care either. She just wants extentions on her work at college.
I will aviode speaking about food or anything to do with weight. To not make her feel like she needs to lose weight too. And ive never spoke to just her about it, and iam the one with an eating disorder. Yet she makes negative comments on my weight gain because ive been binge eating. Like " you cant wear that it will just stretch"
Ive gotten over wanting to be stick thin and all of that but because i have this diagnosis, i feel like i need to restict so i dont look like im out of control from not resticting. My family label me as anorexic and i feel if get my own food they will look at me as weak.
i dont know why i care so much when she dont.