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Struggling :(
Former Member
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I feel so lonely, isolated and depressed. Today i have spoken to:
- Papyrus
- The Samaritans
- Imalive.org
- 7cupsoftea
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Whats going on?
I think it's really brave of you to reach out and seek help not only on the boards, but via helplines too. I also noticed from one of your previous posts that you see a counsellor. These are positive steps you are taking to help yourself. You're not being desperate, you just simply need someone to talk to and share your feelings with. It took a lot of courage for me to open up and post on here, and I'm trying to take similar steps to you in order to overcome my issues. If I haven't said the wrong thing in this post, I'm here if you want to talk.
Pumpkin
PS- I'm not a fan of Trump either!
Thank you Pumpkin, i would chat to you but i really dont know what to say.
I do a mixture of drawing, writing and speaking when i see my counsellor.
I can't draw to save myself and nothing ever looks like I thought it would
I can't put my feelings into words and I think it sounds stupid when read back so I tear up the paper/delete the computer document I've written/typed it on
I can't say how I feel because I think it's complicated and that people won't understand
And all of these things just remind me of my feelings and make me an emotional wreck.
Sorry for being such a negative damper.
Counsellors dont judge at all - if it shows how you feel in a way you want to then that i great
Stupid question, but how can I pluck up the courage to go and see a counsellor? I did nearly go once, but I was too scared so I cancelled the appointment. I don't think I was quite ready to open up.
That is understandable because it is such a big jump. I personally emailed my counsellor with what i have been through and he gave me a date and time and between that email and the appointment i tried to completely distract myself. Went out with friends, took every opportunity to go out shopping with my parents, watched films. But it is also important to keep saying to yourself, they wont judge me, there job is to listen to people, i am important.
Also an important thing is to know that the counsellor expects you not to walk in, sit there and open up about everything. During my first session which is 50 minutes i must of spoke for like 10 minutes in total which is 1/5 of the time. They will completely understand if you just sit there, cry or are shaking with nerves because they understand how hard it is for people like us to come and seek support.
Finally, always praise yourself and give yourself a pat on the back!
Im thinking about how shit i am, how i have no future ahead of me and like is what is the point.
This is probably terrible advice, but just focus on something else when you think negatively like this. Try concentrating on your breathing, cram your head with positive thoughts or happy memories, or try to distract yourself by engaging in activity. You could exercise, draw, bake, etc. I know it's not easy sometimes, but stay strong, I believe you can. Tell your counsellor about this too.
Pumpkin