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Housingg
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been to look around a 'female shared supported house' today and it's like an hour and a half away from where my mum lives and it's in a big city where I don't know the area or anybody but it's the only place that have accepted me so I am moving in on Saturday. I'm unsure wether this is the right thing but I felt forced to say yes as there is no where else that will have me due to my complex needs. I felt compelled to say yes and I don't understand due to my lack of awareness wether something is right or wrong and in making choices ect. It's going to take some time to have my support system set up in the new area. I need to register at a new doctors surgery and get my medication sorted and get the gp to put in a referal in for counselling and therapy. Maybe I might get further with my mental health in a different city *wishful thinking* :') feel completely overwhelmed, scared. I came back and had a cry because I don't understand in my mind wether this is the right thing to be doing or not? So I'm just going along with it but which is quite dangerous.
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It's completely natural to feel scared and reluctant about moving somewhere new. There is always a lot to think about; but you and your wellbeing do come first, so it's great that you're already thinking about setting up a support system :yes:
How are you settling in so far?
It sounds like you have really mixed feelings about this move - and that's understandable. How was your first night?
Often with big life decisions like this there's no way of knowing which way it will go for sure - so try not to beat yourself up about feeling confused. None of us can see into the future so there are points in life where we take the plunge with new experiences so that we can learn something, gain confidence and get to know ourselves better in terms of what feels beneficial and what might not work for us at all.
On the one hand - it's potentially a lot of change and far from your mum etc - on the other, this may be an environment you could really benefit from and move forwards in your life.
I wonder whether getting a hold on some of the practical tasks might be helpful in terms of distracting from some of the fears you have that might be based on unknown factors? Do you like lists for example?
We've got a campaign on The Mix at the moment about home truths - it has a range of stories submitted by young people - it can be helpful to know there are others who are or have been in the same boat: http://www.themix.org.uk/your-voices/campaigns/your-home-truths
Also not sure if you've checked out our Home Truths App? http://www.themix.org.uk/apps-and-tools/home-truths would love to hear what you think
I also wanted to touch on something you said which struck me:
While I can totally understand the 'grow a pair' perspective, especially from someone of an older generation, I think it's worth really trying to bear in mind that everything you're feeling is both reasonable and understandable given the circumstances, and that struggling here is not a sign of weakness or need to just sack up and deal with it.
Yeah, there are bound to be elements of courage and confidence building involved, but it's absolutely okay to take that (as well as everything else) at your own pace. It would be unreasonable to expect you to simply 'get a grip' and it's important not to let these sorts of comments make you feel like you're making a big deal out of things, because you're truly not.
How are you getting on with things at the mo?
Oh, and I believe the app should indeed be available on android.
Thanks for sharing all of this with us. Reading through your story and your experiences it sounds like you've been through a really tough time, its really positive that you've come here to look for some help and support for yourself with whats going on. How do you feel today after writing this all down here yesterday? :chin:
Sounds like you're concerned about the support living project you've been placed in as there's an awful review about it and that you don't know your way around or know anybody where you are at the moment. You mentioned in one of your messages that it's a female shared house, have you been able to speak to any of the people you share the house with at all?
There's also our local services finder where you can look for services in your local area which might be useful to have a look at.
You were saying that you need to be registered with a GP before you can ask for a referral and you want to ask about your medication too. Let us know how it goes with sorting out a new GP.
Feel free to keep writing and posting more here if you find that its helpful to. :yes:
We're here to listen and support you! *hug*
I feel OK atm not long woke up I took my sleeping meds at midnight I think I can't remember what time I fell asleep but anyway not long woke up. So I missed taking my gp registration form in arghhhh the lady on reception said I have to take it in between 8am and 9am which is very odd! I might have to not take my sleeping meds tonight so I can pop it in in the morning. It was fine writing all that down..did you actually read it all lol?
Yeah I think there's only 1 other girl here at the moment and I've spoken to her (she is trouble some) so I won't make friends with her, actually I'm not sure if another has just moved in I have suspicions that there is.
I will do 😊 thankyou 🌸