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How does he feel and what does he want?
I am currently 18 and am seeing my mother's (who is 51) boyfriend who is 48 years old. I have no idea how this even started he just told me one day he "loved me to death" and it escalated from there into something sexual within two months later. Previously he left after I told him I couldn't cope being his mistress as we all lived in the same house so I had to put up with them having sex and being loving toward each other etc. But he continued to see her behind my back. He then returned 5 months later and acted as if me and him never did anything but then we ended up back together. Fast forward, currently he is very close to her and gets on well with her today I caught them play fighting and her kissing him in the kitchen and I feel as though he is deeply in love with her, yet he keeps telling me he loves me and that "it will be alright" and "relax" and "be patient". I have suggesting finishing this affair yet he does not seem to want to yet he doesn't act like he wants me. What do I do? How does he feel? What is the likely outcome for the future? I plan on going to university next year so I'll be leaving home because I don't want this to carry on for too much longer, I want to see what he truly wants. I can't understand why he would choose my mother over me. He also hasn't had sex with her for over a year (he told me when we were on our own and then she told me at a later date when we were out shopping). He now also acts "distant" towards her ever since the day he left when he was gone for five months. But today he seemed to be all over her in a way, and in a really good mood, he also acted guilty around me. I feel terrible for doing this to my mum but before him I never had any experience of a boyfriend or a relationship before and I couldn't help but fall in love because he made me feel really special telling me he loved me and calling me beautiful and sexy etc. He also gives her really passionate kisses at night when he is saying goodbye (he has his own flat but stays over on Saturday nights) but sometimes (quite rare though) he will hesitate to do this or make little effort.