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i feel like im going nuts
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I'm not sure really where to start. I guess I'll start by saying I grew up in a small town where I knew everyone and was liked by everyone. Was really outgoing. Over the years I did start to become timid and more reserved but didn't have any negative impact. The last 3 year's I have been living in a different state away from lush green trees lakes and of course my best friends and family. Anyways I'll skip to it. I don't know very many poeple here got a couple friends and couple family members I talk to. I don't feel like I belong here. I'm shy and have anxiety so I deter away from places with crowds. I feel super lonely and don't have anyone close in this state to give me any advice on this issue. So my issue is no matter how hard I try not to my mind is always thinking that I like someone that I don't. Kinda like I'll hang out at work and have to battle these unwanted thoughts. And it is a battle a stressful one. I don't want to think like this. I have no idea hitch thoughts are normal (like I'm admiring something about poeple and it's ok) idk. I hope somebody could kinda get what I'm trying to say or tell me what kind of in balance it is. Just anxiety perhaps ocd
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Firstly well done for posting.
Just wondering have you been to speak to your doctor about what's going on?
Have you thought about maybe starting a hobby around an interest, to meet new people.
I can totally relate to feeling shy, but I know for me once I get used to new people I am okay.
I hope you begin to feel better soon.
Let us know how your doing, and do keep posting if you want.
We are here for you
It's totally understandable to have these sorts of doubts and questions, I'd say particularly if you're of a shy and anxious nature.
That line between appreciating something about someone or admiring them and wanting a further/deeper connection with someone can be a blurry one. It's probably a fork in the road that most people come to when getting to know someone (I know I do) and it's totally normal to need to think about it. I know, especially if I'm feeling particularly lonely, I tend to have a tougher time finding that boundary with people. When you add introversion and anxiety in to the mix it can somethings make you even more unsure, and having all these thoughts rattling around in our heads at once can make for a tough space to think and see things clearly.
Do you want to tell us more about the unwanted thoughts you say you're battling?