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Helping my girlfriend orgasm, girls and guys need tips!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Guys! How is everyone doing?

Ive been with my girlfriend for some time now and I find it very difficult to make her orgasm, through sex or stimulation or even oral sex.

I know she minds as drunkenly she has said before that our sex life is one sided.

I would like to please her in this way and need some tips so she doesn't resort to doing it herself!

I do invest in a lot of foreplay but she has said before that it takes her a lot of effort.




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    plugitinplugitin Posts: 2,197 Boards Champion
    Have you tried asking what works for her? I'm sure she will have masturbated before and knows what works for her.

    Communication is really important in a relationship, so I'd advise talking about what she thinks would work and what is holding her back right now. You could also ask her if she had any fantasies that you could play out to get her to orgasm?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey there Cameron :wave:

    I'd just like to echo what Kate has said here, about communication being so important in a relationship, not just in this aspect, but in lots of different areas. :yes:

    Ideally you don't want to put yourself under too much pressure, you both need to feel relaxed, and really if you can, ask her what she likes, what turns her on. You could even ask her to 'guide' you, so she shows you what feels good.;)

    Some women can find it hard to 'get there' and it's great to hear you want to make her feel good. Your girlfriend may find that using a sex toy might intensify foreplay, so using one with her could be something you may want to try out together? There's this great article here at TheSite on how to orgasm, which has some tips and advice around this topic. It includes ideas for positions you could both try, that provide the most amount of clitoral stimulation - but again, it's important to remember that everyone is different, and what make work for one person, might not work for someone else. It's good to try out a few things, and it's fun to explore what you both like ;)

    Good luck with it all, I hope you found this useful :d
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