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If your friends don't like your boyfriend or girlfriend, should they tell you?

I imagine a lot of us have had friends get together with someone who we don't like so much, or don't think is a good match for them.
If you were with someone and your friends didn't like your boyfriend/girlfriend, what would you like your friend to do? Should they be honest and tell you what they don't like and why? Or should they keep quiet and keep things nice between you all?
Do you think you'd listen to a friend if they told you someone was a bad idea?
If you were with someone and your friends didn't like your boyfriend/girlfriend, what would you like your friend to do? Should they be honest and tell you what they don't like and why? Or should they keep quiet and keep things nice between you all?
Do you think you'd listen to a friend if they told you someone was a bad idea?
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Yes, I listened to my friends who warned me of someone. I did not immediately get away but it was at the back of my mind and I probably knew best of all how bad this for me was, but I needed to convince myself. It helped me to come to terms with it more quickly.
I find this to be the best approach. Often times people in abusive relationships often lose sight of the woods for the trees. A little outside perspective can at least sow the seed of doubt so they look at their relationship more critically. I don't feel particularly sad for friends who immediately unfriend you and ignore you. I think it's a form of denial. They simply don't want to face the music and there is nothing you can do to help them. If they willfully chose to be miserable, then more power to them.