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in need of help - thinking about having a baby
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so i have been told by my friend about fertility clinic if i give my eggs i can get paid £750 or i can get free ivf but it would mean i would be doing it on my own bring up the baby on my own i am more than happy to do that but i worry about it thought can i do it on my own as my family don't think i can or should do it i will be doing it on my own but its what i wonted for a really long time since i was 20 and lost my first baby all ways wonted to become a mum and would love it if I could just in two minds about it if anyone could help that be great
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Im sorry to hear that about your baby That's very sad - sending you a big hug *hug*
I think this is something you need to spend some time thinking carefully about. It's wonderful that you want to do something admirable like raise a family, however there are some practical things you would need to think about. Raising a child alone can be really quite a stressful and difficult thing to do. You might need to think about finances - will you be able to cope with the extra cost of a child - and things like childcare can be very expensive, if you needed a break from it all - who would help you - would you have someone you could ask to help out now and again - babysitting etc?
There will be the added problems of managing home/work and things like the chores, cooking - you might end up feeling that you might want to split yourself into 3 different people to cope!
There's a website called Gingerbread which you might want to have a look at - it provides advice and support for people who are single parents. They even have a free helpline you can contact them on too You can even join an online community of single parents in your area - which you might find a really useful resource if this is something you do decide you want to do.
You might want to look at Netmums site as well - they have lots of tips and support for people who are single parents, including advice around finances and entitlements.
I think it might be an idea to talk to other single mums - find out a little bit about what's it been like for them. If they have a strong support network - family/friends that are there and really willing to help out - then this can make a real difference. It's important to look at your situation carefully to - and if you have similar things in place.
I hope this helps you
Let us know if you need any other advice/info - happy to help you out Sian x
thank you its been 3 years i am in a better place with it now its something i think about all the time i have a few good friend that said they would be happy to help and support me thought it its something that all ways on my mind yes i know it will be a lot of hard work and i will never get that time out that most ppl can get if they are with someone but i been thought so much over the last three months i been hurt so much and i lost so much i think having a child would give me something to look forward to sort myself out yes money and place to live and a job r all what i need but i can do that now before i go thought with it so i can sort myself out now then once i am sorted i can have a child i know doing it on my own not what ppl like these day nto something you should do but i am happy to do it on my own happy to be a signle mum my dad was never around so i don't need a dad for my child i know it a lot to think about and a lot to go thought on my own but i think i can do it and thank you for your help
OK I AM NOT TRYING TO HAVE A BABY TO REPLACE THE BABY I LOST nothing will ever replace my first baby and i am not happy that you think and if that what you think then please do just leave it just something i am thinking about