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Why do women hate serious men?
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I've read hundreds of women's profiles on several dating websites. A high proportion of them say that they want a man who doesn't take himself or life seriously. None of them say that they want someone who's serious. Why and how is not taking anything seriously a turn on? Many things in life are serious.
Bizarrely, some of the same women say that they want a man who's driven, ambitious, hardworking etc. Someone who doesn't take life seriously isn't going to be driven, ambitious and hardworking - he's not going to aim for accomplishments or success. He'll be lazy and won't even bother to pay his bills, because it's doesn't matter to him, because nothing is a serious matter to him.
Bizarrely, some of the same women say that they want a man who's driven, ambitious, hardworking etc. Someone who doesn't take life seriously isn't going to be driven, ambitious and hardworking - he's not going to aim for accomplishments or success. He'll be lazy and won't even bother to pay his bills, because it's doesn't matter to him, because nothing is a serious matter to him.
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They've said that they want someone who doesn't take life seriously - that means life in general, not just falling over. Responsibility requires seriousness.
What you've said doesn't try to explain how treating life as one big joke is a turn-on to a high proportion of women.
Its a turn on because as i said, no one wants to be around someone depressing and boring all the time.
If they mean that they want someone who is serious when needed and fun when not, that's what they should say.
There isn't a fun side in everything. What's the fun side to suffering from cancer? What's the fun side to your house having been burgled? What's the fun side to being permanently disabled/disfigured?
Someone can be serious without being depressed, stressed or boring. Most serious people can hold a good conversation. However, that's deemed worthless in social situations where banter, jokes and anecdotes are compulsory.
I bet there are plenty of women out there who would prefer a more serious man, if you value seriousness in your life, and many women who would also describe themselves as serious. It's just a question of finding them
I've never found any and I don't know where to look for them. I've read hundreds of women's profiles on several dating websites; none of them say that they want someone who's serious. Many of them say that they can't stand serious people.
That still doesn't explain how a don't-care-less attitude makes them wet.
I wouldn't believe you because: a) you hate me; b) you hate the fact that I want sex; c) you've claimed that once a month is the right frequency for sex and d) you appear to be a lesbian.
What you've said to me isn't logical. You're pushing an anti-sex message on the Sex & Relationships section of a sex-positive website.
I don't hate anybody actually, Well I do...but theres a very logical reason I hate this person,
It's not offensive to want sex and not want to waste a huge amount of time 'being friends' or a huge amount of money wining and dining gold-digging, cock-teasing timewasters. You harshly criticised me for wanting sex every day and said that once a month is a good frequency. You strongly implied that once a month is plenty for anyone.
You've said that you're in a lesbian relationship and that your dream date is Jessie J.
I've started the autism course; so far it's been pointless for me. It's such basic stuff that I feel like I'm in infant school. I learnt nothing in the first session. Everything that was said, I had known for years.
How many people are on the course?? Have you had chance to speak to them about how you feel?? Remember that everyone is there for the same reason and no one will judge you.
I just think you need to give it time. Once the course is over you can then take charge on what to do and see what works for you. I know there's nothing what might not he working yet but in time there will be something.
This course will do you good and maybe from what we have said to you, can put things into consideration.
There are lots of women out there who don't just go for bad boys like him. Some women do but just for the excitement and think that type of guy don't really want a relationship.
It's finding that right girl in time because not all girls are the same and want a nice guy. Some of them like a bad boy and some of them don't. You just need to find the right one. There is someone out there for you.
Remember it depends what the person is looking for two so if you only want sex with her and that's it then she might want a relationship.
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The course is one-to-one, hence I haven't met anyone else who is on or has done the course.
Unless the course progresses to a more intermediate level, it's pointless for me.
What's your tutor like? Do you get on with her
I know you said your not learning right now but I think it's about giving it time because of you give up then your still gonna think to urself that you need something which can help with your social skills so its worth seeing.
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What's your tutor like? Do you get on with her
I know you said your not learning right now but I think it's about giving it time because of you give up then your still gonna think to urself that you need something which can help with your social skills so its worth seeing.
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You need to understand that it isn't going to start full on Straight away, just like any class or course you do you get eased into it.
Give it time
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