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Hi everyone...
ok here goes..
well I've been best friends with this guy for about a year now but he has always had feelings for me and since I 've known him I haven't had a boyfriend. I care about him so much and think my feelings for him might be turning into something else (other than friendship) . The other night he tried to make a move but I pulled back and ended up telling him I don't want to be anything more than friends but the thing is everyone thinks we are together anyway and we even hold hands and stuff..!? but I have NEVER kissed him.
He treats me with so much respect and I always think that I will never find a guy who will treat me as good as he will.
BUT then I think if I wanted to be with him I would KNOW and not have mixed up feelings after a whole year
What should I do ? give it a go or stay friends and find a boyfriend ? (like I say its been a whole year !)
Someone plz give me advice on this one...
Thanks xx
ok here goes..
well I've been best friends with this guy for about a year now but he has always had feelings for me and since I 've known him I haven't had a boyfriend. I care about him so much and think my feelings for him might be turning into something else (other than friendship) . The other night he tried to make a move but I pulled back and ended up telling him I don't want to be anything more than friends but the thing is everyone thinks we are together anyway and we even hold hands and stuff..!? but I have NEVER kissed him.
He treats me with so much respect and I always think that I will never find a guy who will treat me as good as he will.
BUT then I think if I wanted to be with him I would KNOW and not have mixed up feelings after a whole year
What should I do ? give it a go or stay friends and find a boyfriend ? (like I say its been a whole year !)
Someone plz give me advice on this one...
Thanks xx
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Is he Mr Right or Mr Right-Now?
Kermits right, do you fancy him or not? there is your answer.
but the thought of being with another guy makes me feel bad... how stupid is that ?! but thats probably cuz i know how he feels about me... what do u think ?
Trust me ive been there, you will only hurt him more hun. If you dont fancy someone, then its not a good idea to be in a relationship with him. I hold hands (blokey) with my best mate, we hug and cuddle up but best friends do this. Dont mix your feelings!
I sometimes wonder about my best mate. He's a lovely bloke, respectful, wouldn't hurt me and would be great for me. Problem is i just don't fancy him and i would never step past the friendship boundary no matter how low i get.
Well I think you said it there in one.
Thanks a lot everyone.
One more thing, think do you think I should tell him (again) that I dont have the same feelings for him that he does for me ? I don't want to break up our friendship but I think he needs to understand this time ...