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Blokes, would you stay in a relationship....
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If you found out that your gf likes getting compliments off other blokes and sometimes leads them on to get compliments? She doesn't do it when your with her tho! But she told you that she does it!
Would you be able to trust her?
Could you just ignore it?
Would you be able to trust her?
Could you just ignore it?
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alrite so i'm not a bloke and therefore irrelevant here lol. but surely it's natural to want compliments? i mean... i don't lead men on to get them but it's nice when i get complimented! and i doubt anyone would when my bf was there cos he's the jealous type. so i don't think it's anything to worry about
quite topical actually
my girlfriend's just got a new job at a local pub (only been there 2 weeks), so she gets tons of compliments off blokes and already been asked out a few times. she turns them down of course and i trust her, but it doesn't help that she goes to work dressed like she's going out. i.e. wearing see through tops with push up bras, white thongs with black clothes (so it sticks out quite badly when she bends over or squats down).
so whenever i take her to work (the last 5 nights), i'm left at home on my own, not only being bored as f*** and totally lonely without her, but also having to think about all the dirty 'ol men perving at her all the time! arrrgh! stress! :mad:
but i love her and trust her and would never ever even think of leaving her!
At the same time, my boyfriend flirts with other girls. Neither of us mind the other doing this, because we understand it's fun but it doesn't mean we don't care enough about one another, and we trust one another not to go too far. If it upset me or him, I'm sure we'd talk about it and stop.
I wouldn't mind if my current girl did it though as I know I can trust her with my life.
I being an insecure person wouldnt be able to handle it if wasnt there because i easily get jealous, however if i was with her and someone said she was well fit, it wouldnt bother me only from a selfish perspective because not only would it be a compliment for her, but it would be a compliment to me because i would be going out with her.
So it can go both ways really
If so, let it slide. Forget about it.
I went out with a girl who was naturally a flirty person, she didn't know she was doing it. It never lead to anything but it can cause a little insecurity. Some people are like that. Only you know your girlfriend well enough to her personality.
:rolleyes:
Miaow
Personally Harmless i think you should just shag her :chin:
I've had a girlfriend like that. There's nothing wrong with it IMO, because it's just flirting, and I trusted her to keep it at that.
If you're worried about it, you could always try talking to her and telling her that you're a little insecure about it yourself
But, yeah, I'd stay with her - no harm being done.
And for the record, I'm not insecure about it. Just got my eyes open and know where it might lead to!
Mumma never raised no fool:p
Me and my fella both flirt like mad. Often you'll find us both with someone different on our arms on nights out if we're in a large group. We both know nowt will happen and we're happy with that. We both do it less now than we used to and I only really do when he's around now, but it's still part of us. He flirts to do his job anyway so there's definately no stopping him. It's just part of his nature.
Oh and as for folks saying flirting is a form of insecurity. Anyone who doesn't trust their partner flirting is even more insecure in themselves. Flirting for some is purely a good laugh
Lol, But why do you feel the need to flirt if you already have someone?
Surely it's the person needing compliments that has the problem?.... Yeah, I like getting compliments, but that doesn't mean I'll go out fishing for them from ladies, and I wouldn't fucking lead a girl on to get one!
If it was happening in my face, I could handle it. But it's behind my back and out of sight. That slightly annoys me.
I think that behaviour is asking for trouble tho, I mean you can't lead a bloke on just because your feeling down, It‘s why women are such headfucks. It's like going out with a guy just for his money, It's not right and someone might end up getting hurt (then that someone might do sum physical hurting!)
Perhaps I'm the only sane one and the rest of you are all mad!:crazyeyes