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RudeBwoys topic got me thinking about double standards.
why is it ok for men to go out and do what ever they want sleep with as many girls as they want and bragg about it but when a girl does it she gets branded a slut, whore, the local bike, easy whatever. i thought it was equal rights and all that, men get respect for it, a girls only gotta do summat silly once and its stuck for life.
it really frustates me.
guys if you found out a girl you liked has had a lot of sexual partners would it put you off her?
girls have you ever done anything that has led to you being called a slut or something along those lines?
i had a threesome once and one lad i know called me a dirty slut?
was he just jealous coz he didnt get none of the action?
i believe everyone should be able to do what they wanna do if it makes them happy and at the end of the day its no one elses business.
so why these double standards?
also people how many partners do you class as a lot?
why is it ok for men to go out and do what ever they want sleep with as many girls as they want and bragg about it but when a girl does it she gets branded a slut, whore, the local bike, easy whatever. i thought it was equal rights and all that, men get respect for it, a girls only gotta do summat silly once and its stuck for life.
it really frustates me.
guys if you found out a girl you liked has had a lot of sexual partners would it put you off her?
girls have you ever done anything that has led to you being called a slut or something along those lines?
i had a threesome once and one lad i know called me a dirty slut?
was he just jealous coz he didnt get none of the action?
i believe everyone should be able to do what they wanna do if it makes them happy and at the end of the day its no one elses business.
so why these double standards?
also people how many partners do you class as a lot?
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Admittedly, although I know you are right, as a guy if I heard that someone I was interested in had slept with many people it would probably put me off a little.
I guess it all could be just a result of social conditioning.
In response to theputting me off bit, if i met a girl whos been with many people before it wouldnt really bother me.....
But i guess thats my opinion
After all - Its my cock invading your pussy - Not the other way round. When I've shot my loads up you, its not my legs the cum will be dripping down for the next few hours.
Sexist
Firstly I am no sexist.
Secondly - Does anyone else find that dictionary description of sexism sexist? lol.
Thirdly - On what grounds do you make me a sexist?
Anyway then - Do you agree with paying for girls, opening doors for girls etc?
Lol, an eye for an eye, eh?
To be honest, Sars, if I guy wants to know how many people I've slept with, I wouldn't tell him straight away. The past is my business, and I think as a relationship progresses, you'll learn a lot of things about your partner that you don't like, but it doesn't change the way you feel about them because you love them. Shh, please, don't tell anyone about this optimism of mine
But that's just in the context of relationships. I wouldn't openly talk about my sex life to others because the majority of people will always be very narrow minded and set in their ways, so you can't really win i.e. if you do, you're easy, if you don't you're frigid. I talk about my sex life openly in my lj, because the majority of people on my friends list are open minded and wouldn't be so petty as to judge me on something like sex.
Getting people to change their attitudes is hard, because a lot of them are ignorant, and proud of it, and don't feel the need to change. But I choose not to associate with those types. Whether you're male or female, as long as your happy, being safe, and not hurting anyone on purpose, then old attitudes shouldn't really matter.
You think just like me! Why do people feel the need to say "This is me, like it or lump it!". Why do people not realise attitudes and opinions can and should evolve?
You are the first person ive heard say this so thats pretty cool and I agree
I must admit it has been a while since I have heard people talk the way you two do...:) ...and I think its great.
In saying that, if she had slept with 40 guys before me then I'd think again.
Normally, the people that call girls sluts are the ones that are either jealous of what they can get, or jealous because they want to fuck them.
Guys that go out and shag anything they can then bragg about it are scumfucks. They're absolute losers. I've never shagged someone with the intention of bragging about it.
Btw, I can guarantee that the guy that said you were a slut is jealous as hell
MFF? Or MFM? Just curious
mff and it was goooood
Blokes want to be Marco fucking Polo when it comes to new gf's. We like the idea of being the biggest, best & first. Hence why we ask; 'how many times' have you had sex etc and perhaps get bitter when we don't hear the answer we want (that's not to say lying is the best policy!)
so why these double standards?- Women look down on blokes that fuck whores, Yet they don't mind being fucked like one in some dirty fantasy they have! I think women have a lot of their own double standards
also people how many partners do you class as a lot? -Depends how old the girl is and what she looks like I think. You tend to find girls that believe themselves to be ugly get used by blokes as a quick shag and have lot of numbers under their belts! Not fair but it just seem the way it is. Insecurities are a right bitch!
and at the end of the day its no one elses business.- I beg to differ, If you're putting your partner at risk he/she has the right to know!
It's pretty insecure to feel the need to ask that kind of thing.
We don't all do it.
Theres no double standards from men.
same here, itsm not really that hard to pull someone and fuck there brains out... so why do it?
Yes it is insecure, but everyone has insecurities! *Even you!!*
No doubt you deal with them better once you get older (or hide them better!) but they hardy go away because they are hard to deal with!
And furthermore.... I didn't mean for it to sound like we all have the same insecurities!
Girls, unless you were only interested in a one-night-stand, would some guy telling you he's had a lot of sexual partners impress you? Would you think any less of him because of it?
Women seem to dislike men who sleep around a lot anyway, thinking that they seem to think they're God's gift to women etc...
Secondly, if a girl I liked had had a lot of sexual partners, yes it would bother me. I don't do sex before marriage, and I like living in my naive little world and thinking thta there are some women out there who think the same
Thirdly, I don't think there's a definate number that I would look at and think "Yep, that's a lot". It depends on how old they are.
For example, if a girl's lept with 20 people and she's only 18, then I would say she's slept with a lot. However, if she was 40, then 20 people doesn't seem as much.
Tehnical question that third one...