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Does anyone think sex is actually a big deal anymore?
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Its just that some of the things i read on these boards kinda scare me, people whove been sexually active since 13, 14, people whove lost count of how many sexual partners theyve had, etc.
Im not judging these people at all, because everyone has the right to make their own decisons. But does anyone feel that sex is a special thing at all anymore? I do believe in sex before marriage, but not in sex before love. Anyone have similar views?
As i said, im not judging anyone, i would just like some opinions on this. cheers
xx
Im not judging these people at all, because everyone has the right to make their own decisons. But does anyone feel that sex is a special thing at all anymore? I do believe in sex before marriage, but not in sex before love. Anyone have similar views?
As i said, im not judging anyone, i would just like some opinions on this. cheers
xx
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No, I would need to have fucked them to be able to love them. Couldn't love them fully otherwise!
If its someone i dont care about or love sex is just a physical thing and it means nothing to me. If i love someone it means a lot.
i agree wiv giggles :yes:
I agree with you - I would only sleep with someone I love. Sex should be about a deeper connection.
If you put out for every guy/girl you meet then how can it be special? As far as I can see a lot of young girls have sex because they are either pressured into it or they think that it means the other person loves them or that they are a person deserving of love.
I don't believe in Marriage but I do think people need to keep sex as something you do when you are in love. its much better that way anyway!
As for sex being special, well I suppose for some it isnt but for me it is. It depends a lot on what type of sex your talking about too, I can kind of see that just animal fucking between two people who consent doesnt really have to have much of a spiritual conection, but I think its better with someone you love, because then you get to practice and learn what each other likes and you can experiement, and it gets better.
i would never be able to just sleep with someone and then not feel emotionally involved with that person. i think that sex is a big deal because i personally have only ever slept with people who i have been in a long term relationship with. my first time was very special 2 but people dont seem that bothered about that anymore.
it does actually scare and disturb me how some people can treat it as nothing
they need to learn the difference between passion and compassion! i think that makes sense.....
but then if you're talkin about drunken one night stands..well i dont like them much.
but if its the beginning of a realtionship i dont see why you should wait until you're in love
To those people who say they are waiting for the 'right person' to come along before they sleep with them - why? are you only ever going to sleep with that one person for the rest of your life? if not then why does it matter it that they're so special? if you are only going to have sex with one person your whole life then how will you know if its any good? it could be the worst sex ever but you wouldnt know any different...
why is that? why is it such a big deal?
why??
when it comes down to it, sex is there to make babies. every living thing has sex in order to reproduce(ok there might be an exception somewhere). it just so happens that we as humans can find alot of pleasure from it and we use contraception to stop us having babies. so we can have loads and loads of sex(yay) just for the fun of it. so it never started off *that* special, just a fact of life. so why build it up into something that its not? because no doubt religion has taught us to do that and has since carried on like that through the ages.
Hmm.... no, I don't think so.
Sex has lost its big deal status in this day and age where people have fuck buddies and one night stands because they know they have the safety net of contraception.
In my opinion, sex is something that should only be enjoyed by two people who are already emotionally close. I don't believe in no sex before marriage, but I do believe in no sex before love. It seems I'm old fashioned like that I guess.
i agree. i was 17 when i lost my virginity and i certainly don't do 1night stands but i don't see the point in waiting til you're in love.
I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend when we'd been together for about 6months, and it was a big deal for both of us. I don't think I could really enjoy sex with someone I wasn't in love with.
I'm not judging people who do have one-night stands or who've had lots of sexual partners, I mean why not if you feel comfortable with it? But it's not something I personally could do.
You know what - as someone who is 33 and has only ever slept with one person I can say truthfully that I've never wondered what it would be like with someone else as I'm fine in the situation I'm in. However....
I do think that when I was 16 it would have been nice to realise that just because sex meant the involvement of emotions, theres nothing wrong with being a little emotional sometimes!!