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out of interest, does anyone have problems with their partners mother /father?
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yeah that is true! i dunno i just dunno!
It upset me slightly. I know that I was dating my girlfriend, not her mum, but it still would have been nice to not be shuned like that. We lasted for a year, and her mum never warmed towards me. I wonder what it would have been like if we married?
In fact I get on incredibly well with my current girlfriend's parents...even take the piss out of her mum for thinking that the word 'penguin' is spelt 'penquin'
i did like her, i was just shy. now we chat happily away, usually about him, which he hates.
The first boyfriend was quite well off - not his family, just him, through his work and own business. His mother always seemed to like me on the surface, but the minute me and him had an argument, she'd accuse me of only being with him for his money (which wasn't true). Funny thing was, me and her used to rub each other up the wrong way whenever she asked him for money, to pay her bills and own debts - used to bug the hell outta me (even though I know it was none of my business), especially when she accused me of only being with him for his money!
Then the second one went to grammar school (as did his mum, dad, and sister) and I didn't. Therefore, I wasn't good enough for him, in his mother's eyes. Also, I didn't want to go to uni and he did, so that went against me too. I got the feeling I was getting dirty looks from his mum and she used to ask questions about what I was going to do with my future - knowing full well I didn't know myself! I just tended to stay away from his house when she was going to be in after that... Still get dirty looks off her in the street whenever I see her tho! :rolleyes:
So now she has started dropping by unannounced (Not that often) and I can cope with that apart from the formality of it all. Even though its my home, as soon as she steps through the door I stop being myself.
A couple of weeks ago she dropped by with my boyfriends three year old nephew and I had to endure three hours of polite chit chat. Then her grandchild started wandering off and she followed. Next thing I heard the sound of my bedroom door opening and then a while later closing!!!!! she had taken the opportunity to have a look in my bedroom (And god knows where else!!) and It really annoyed me.
I MEAN....What reason would she have, or right, to go and look in her (36 year old) sons bedroom - the place that is most private!
I think one thing that worries me is that she is really house-proud whereas I am the kind of person who leaves things where I drop them so our bedroom is littered with clothes and magazines and general crap! So I feel like she's checking up on me and probably disapproves of the way I keep my house! After all this is the woman who ran her finger over our mantlepiece and commented on the dust!
after i split up with my boyf i was quite relieved i wouldnt have to see her again! and like someone said earlier, its not like you are going out with the mum but you still like to be accepted