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I Need Help

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
i think i posted somethin a few months ago about how i got really nervous when i got into any sex situation. ive tried to get past it but im still having problems so ive decided to take some proper action and get professional help and i was just wondering if anyone knew of any people i could go and see or of any numbers i could ring.

thanx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Quickstar - if you go to your doctor, he/she can arrange for you to see a specialist, that's probably the best option.

    Or if you don't fancy that then have a look where your nearest Brook centre is and give them a visit. :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Re: I Need Help
    Originally posted by QuickStar
    i think i posted somethin a few months ago about how i got really nervous when i got into any sex situation. ive tried to get past it but im still having problems so ive decided to take some proper action and get professional help and i was just wondering if anyone knew of any people i could go and see or of any numbers i could ring.

    thanx

    you could make sure that you're really comfortable with the person before trying anything sexual. confidence comes with practice!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Guess what! I am exactly the same.
    I've only ever had one boyfriend, and he dumped me because I was too scared to kiss him. I mean, I've kissed other guys before, but when I wasn't in a relationship.
    At the time, I thought I had commitment problems. It was only like 4 months later I realised that it was HIM that I was "scared" of, not the relationship. I realised that the reason why I couldn't bring myself to kiss him, was because the trust wasn't there.
    So I knew it wasn't just my fear of being intimate, it was how I felt about the guy.

    That was in November/December, now, I've got my eye on one certain lad who is just as inexperienced as myself.
    Just knowing that makes me feel so much less scared, and I'm confident that I won't get scared and back out like I usually do.
    I think it's about finding the right guy that you feel comfortable with, who you respect and trust.
    Maybe it's just me, but it's made so much difference, to figure out the main source for being so scared.
    Like Andy said, talk to your doctor about it, and maybe get a referal to a sex therapist.
    All I did was completely bomb my mum out with it! I couldn't stop worrying that I had real psychological issues... After talking it out with my mum, it was as clear as day. Why don't you go to your mum for help? It mite help you, like it helped me...

    Keep us posted, Ilora x

    P.S PM me if you ever need to talk x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey thanx for that. maybe your right cos i dont think i completly trust the guy im with right now. i will go and see my doctor though just to see if he can give me any advice.

    i think if i find some one i can trust more it might be easier for me.
    i'll keep you posted, thanx guys :)
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