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im going to just paste it in from my livejournal because i think its explained in the best way it can be on there....james is an ex of mine...we broke up in march
spent 2 hours with James this evening. we were layed on the grass by the river. had to keep moving tho because of the sun lol the shadows kept catchin up..dammit! he was being so lovely, we just chatted for a while and then were sorta flirting...like i was layed on my front and he kinda kneed me so i kicked him (playfully of course) and we were play fighting. we just layed next to each other talkin but he had hold of both my hands and one leg over me. i threw grass at him and he said 'if you do that again its going down your trousers' lol so of course i did it again and true to his word...he put a handful of it down my knickers. then i was sat up and he was layed with his head in my lap for at least 45 mins...the had his arms round the back of me stroking the bottom of my back, just was being so so nice. and we just chatted the whole time. got back to the play fighting and he picked me up and threatened to throw me in the river but i laughed and squealed so he hung me upside down and span me round until he got dizzy and colapsed with his legs all in mine and we both just layed laughin on the floor. then he got up to move our things closer to us and came back and layed with his head on my tummy holding my hand kinda. i sat up and he moved to get his shoes on and then came and sat behind me with one leg either side of me really close and had his arms round me restin his head on my back...he said it was cos he was cold and i was warm. i thought id got over these feelings for him but they came rushing back today and when he left me to go his way home and i went mine i just wanted to kiss him...i didnt because i dont wana ruin this all but i felt like i really wanted to.
he text me just as i got home sayin 'hey short stuff...made it home yet? was nice to c u again properly
wat u up 2 now? *mwah*' hes not put *mwah* since we were sorta together. and then after i had dinner i came on msn and he was on and he was being so lovely sayin i made him happy and givin me kisses (i know its only on msn but hes not done it for a long time now) and stuff. ah man! mixed signals! soooo confused! i said it was nice to c him again for a lenght of time instead of like 20 mins or wat ever walk from skool and his exact words in reply were 'was very niec to see u agian properly' (cut and pasted from the convo' he said he wud come down for an hour but it was 2 hours b4 i got home again and he said 'well was intending to come down for hour but was hain fun' argh! i duno now!!!! mixed damn signals! nooooooooo!
sorry its long, but it was hard to get down in writting.
my question is...what do you think of how he was acting? honestly do you think it was just him being matey? any replies will be greatfully recieved
spent 2 hours with James this evening. we were layed on the grass by the river. had to keep moving tho because of the sun lol the shadows kept catchin up..dammit! he was being so lovely, we just chatted for a while and then were sorta flirting...like i was layed on my front and he kinda kneed me so i kicked him (playfully of course) and we were play fighting. we just layed next to each other talkin but he had hold of both my hands and one leg over me. i threw grass at him and he said 'if you do that again its going down your trousers' lol so of course i did it again and true to his word...he put a handful of it down my knickers. then i was sat up and he was layed with his head in my lap for at least 45 mins...the had his arms round the back of me stroking the bottom of my back, just was being so so nice. and we just chatted the whole time. got back to the play fighting and he picked me up and threatened to throw me in the river but i laughed and squealed so he hung me upside down and span me round until he got dizzy and colapsed with his legs all in mine and we both just layed laughin on the floor. then he got up to move our things closer to us and came back and layed with his head on my tummy holding my hand kinda. i sat up and he moved to get his shoes on and then came and sat behind me with one leg either side of me really close and had his arms round me restin his head on my back...he said it was cos he was cold and i was warm. i thought id got over these feelings for him but they came rushing back today and when he left me to go his way home and i went mine i just wanted to kiss him...i didnt because i dont wana ruin this all but i felt like i really wanted to.
he text me just as i got home sayin 'hey short stuff...made it home yet? was nice to c u again properly
wat u up 2 now? *mwah*' hes not put *mwah* since we were sorta together. and then after i had dinner i came on msn and he was on and he was being so lovely sayin i made him happy and givin me kisses (i know its only on msn but hes not done it for a long time now) and stuff. ah man! mixed signals! soooo confused! i said it was nice to c him again for a lenght of time instead of like 20 mins or wat ever walk from skool and his exact words in reply were 'was very niec to see u agian properly' (cut and pasted from the convo' he said he wud come down for an hour but it was 2 hours b4 i got home again and he said 'well was intending to come down for hour but was hain fun' argh! i duno now!!!! mixed damn signals! nooooooooo!sorry its long, but it was hard to get down in writting.
my question is...what do you think of how he was acting? honestly do you think it was just him being matey? any replies will be greatfully recieved
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I say he likes you if he is acting like that. If he doesn't then he is seriously leading you on! Good luck hunny!! *hugs*
we argue sometimes but he said he thinks its because we are so alike in lots of ways so we sort of clash but its good because it clears the air...we both speak our minds
but we werent really on bad terms that we broke up because we stayed close.
since i posted last nite ive been textin him and he said 'well i do know we have fun together so we will have to do stuff again
so what do you think?!
Sounds great hunay
Good luck with it whatever you decide to do, but to me (being the world relationship expert that I am
I guess that's why they say being in love is knowing all of someones faults but accepting them
i dont know wat to do! part of me wants to belive u all but part of me just doesnt want to get my hopes up
OK, how's this for an idea:
**dramatic drum roll**
Ask him
**waits for the drama to catch up**
It can just be on MSN if you prefer, but ask him if he wants to get back with you, because he (and all of us too) gave you the impression that he did.
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
Just be prepared for him to say no - it could be that he does like you, but doesn't want to do anything about it for one reason or another, so the flirting could just be empty. So be prepared.
But I don't think it can just be empty, I'm sure it'll work out!