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Painful sex - WTF is wrong with me?!
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Ok, appologies for any graphicness that may follow. 
Right, a while ago i thought i might have thrush so started treating it with the usual pessaries and cream.
Anyway, what i thought was thrush didn't clear up so i went to the doctors. I told her i have discharge and soreness when i try and have sex.
I had 2 swabs taken by the nurse, one for any infection and another to check for clamidia (sp?)
Thankfully, the results were clear but i'm completely confused now. If i don't have an infection or STI then WTF is wrong with me?! It's not because i'm not wet enough cos' when my boyfriend and i try and have sex we use plenty of lube and we're spending an hour upwards on foreplay.
I really have no clue what could be up, the discharge isn't as bad as it was but i'm still sore and it makes sex unenjoyable for me as it's just to painful. I'm at the end of my tether so i'm turning to you lot for ideas...anyone have any idea what could be wrong?
Thanks for any replies people and sorry for the minging
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Right, a while ago i thought i might have thrush so started treating it with the usual pessaries and cream.
Anyway, what i thought was thrush didn't clear up so i went to the doctors. I told her i have discharge and soreness when i try and have sex.
I had 2 swabs taken by the nurse, one for any infection and another to check for clamidia (sp?)
Thankfully, the results were clear but i'm completely confused now. If i don't have an infection or STI then WTF is wrong with me?! It's not because i'm not wet enough cos' when my boyfriend and i try and have sex we use plenty of lube and we're spending an hour upwards on foreplay.
I really have no clue what could be up, the discharge isn't as bad as it was but i'm still sore and it makes sex unenjoyable for me as it's just to painful. I'm at the end of my tether so i'm turning to you lot for ideas...anyone have any idea what could be wrong?
Thanks for any replies people and sorry for the minging
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You shouldnt be sore when having sex, thats long as you say you are doing plenty of foreplay. Could it be that you think its going to hurt, that subconciously you are yourself making it hurt by being over tense waiting to get the pain you normally get?
Id really go and see the doc though as it is not normal for it to kep hurting you
Maybe, I don't want to scare you, there is a growth or something in you which may cause this?
Why don't you pop to your local sex clinic?
I would have thought that the doc would have noticed this? and shes had 2 swabs taken so to me (although im no doctor) if it were something like that wouldnt it show?
one of the nobodies do you have regular smears taken? when was your last one?
To anyone out there smears are a must especially when you become sexually active. Yes I appreciate they are not very comfortable but for 2 mins of being uncomfortable it is really worth it. Dont beleive the horror stories that some people say because although its uncomfortable its not that painful. If anyone wants to know what they do PM me and I will reply to you
HTH
Susie
I've never had a smear test. I'm 17 and have been sexally active with the same partner for about a year and six months. I'm not sure when i'll need one as nothing has been mentioned about it by my doctor.
Anyway, thanks for the replies, it not sore anymore so i'm guessing it was more of a psychological problem rather than a physical one. Thanks Becky.
I remember being told my G.P some time ago about having smears and how important they are. Especially when you have had problems and then when xila mentioned growth it just triggered something in my head.
Susie do we have a fact sheet about smears, why we need them etc that could maybe be put up as a sticky ?
Also, I'm 17 and sexually active and when I asked my doctor about getting a smear test done he said I didn't need to have one til I was 20! I know that I've been sexually active for less than a year, but 20 seems ages.
Lol, yeah he'd love that. I don't want to give him a big head! (no pun intended!)
"According to a spokesperson for the Family Planning Association, women should start having smear tests from the first year they become sexually active. If the smear shows nothing abnormal, the test is repeated at 3 or 5-year intervals, depending upon your local health authority. Note that you cannot be screened during your period. The best time to have the test is roughly two weeks after the first day of your period. "
Edited to say you are usually contacted by your Gp to have one at about 21 however if you have been sexually active before then you should make an appointment yourself, as it says above. Also if you have really bad/ irregular periods your GP may suggest you have a smear.
According to a spokesperson for the Family Planning Association, women should start having smear tests from the first year they become sexually active. If the smear shows nothing abnormal, the test is repeated at 3 or 5-year intervals, depending upon your local health authority. Note that you cannot be screened during your period. The best time to have the test is roughly two weeks after the first day of your period.
Sprouts this is a copy and paste from the link Susie put up. Anyone who has been sexually active should have a smear test from the first year they become sexually active. One of the nobodies has said she is sexually active so I think a smear test would be best especially seeing as she is having problems. It also means anyone who is sexually active should also have a smear test, not just if they are having problems.
I was in the middle of my exams when the soreness started so it may be exam stress which is to blame.
Thanks for the advice Becky, i'm going to make an appointment at the doctors for a smear just to be safe. I would advise others to do the same. Better to be safe than sorry!
No problem, as you say better be safe than sorry
If you are a bit worried about it enquire if the nurse can do it. My surgery actually have a designated clinic anyway which is normally done by the nurse rather than a doctor, the same may apply at your surgery.