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Cancer @ 20
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WEll i have said probally some silly things on these boards in past but today im going to talk about something VERY serious.
MY best friend marc who i have been close to since we was about 11/12 is in hospital with a bowel tumor.
He first went into hospital in January because he passed LOTS of blood in his toilet. The doctors sent him home and said you probally have an ulcer.
3 weeks ago marc went to hospital with severe pain in his lower stomuch the hospital gave him codeine pills and basicly said just go home.
Last Thursday marc went back to hospital in agony and his exact words what he told me where if i could of i would of jumped out of the window and marc isnt a light weight with pain.
Since thursday marc is in hospital i went to see him sat not knowing the full extent of his illness until Monday.
his dad phoned me up monday nite and told me marc had a bowl tumor, i didnt know what to say as it didnt seem real to me. I was so shocked . i know it sounds narrow minded but i never thought someone i know at 20 gets cancer you just dont expect it.
Anyway the only reason im typing this is because i need to get it off my chest morbid as it is.
Marc isnt very well now and is on a morphine drip and so on for the pain.
ITs very hard for me all this as we been good friends for 10 years and known each other for probally 15.
The doctor has given me some temazepam 20mg for sleeping and that but i dont think i could face the hospital sober or without narcotics. i know it sounds selfish but i cant bare to see my friend like this.
ANother bad thing is my grandad died from bowl cancer about 6 years ago, and like my mum said i was very close to my grandad.
Sorry to type all this i just gutted for marc, marcs close family.
I just hope its not to late and i wont give up till last min for marc. he will always be my best mate to me .
Peace to all
MY best friend marc who i have been close to since we was about 11/12 is in hospital with a bowel tumor.
He first went into hospital in January because he passed LOTS of blood in his toilet. The doctors sent him home and said you probally have an ulcer.
3 weeks ago marc went to hospital with severe pain in his lower stomuch the hospital gave him codeine pills and basicly said just go home.
Last Thursday marc went back to hospital in agony and his exact words what he told me where if i could of i would of jumped out of the window and marc isnt a light weight with pain.
Since thursday marc is in hospital i went to see him sat not knowing the full extent of his illness until Monday.
his dad phoned me up monday nite and told me marc had a bowl tumor, i didnt know what to say as it didnt seem real to me. I was so shocked . i know it sounds narrow minded but i never thought someone i know at 20 gets cancer you just dont expect it.
Anyway the only reason im typing this is because i need to get it off my chest morbid as it is.
Marc isnt very well now and is on a morphine drip and so on for the pain.
ITs very hard for me all this as we been good friends for 10 years and known each other for probally 15.
The doctor has given me some temazepam 20mg for sleeping and that but i dont think i could face the hospital sober or without narcotics. i know it sounds selfish but i cant bare to see my friend like this.
ANother bad thing is my grandad died from bowl cancer about 6 years ago, and like my mum said i was very close to my grandad.
Sorry to type all this i just gutted for marc, marcs close family.
I just hope its not to late and i wont give up till last min for marc. he will always be my best mate to me .
Peace to all
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It may not be as bad as you're assuming. Tumors can be removed & they're not always cancerous.
PM me any time if you want to off-load, I'm always happy to listen.
*hugs*
It sounds trite to say good luck and I hope he comes out of it OK, but I really do. 20 is so young! I don't know what to say but I hope it's helped airing your feelings on the boards.
http://www.cancerbacup.org.uk/info/colon/colon-4.htm
if it is cancer dont panic, my aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 years ago and though it was tough at the time, she had chemo, lost her breast and her hair she is doing great now!
try and be positive for your pals sake if not for you. take care, wish you all the best for you and your friend. thinking of you
jamesfowler@ntlworld.com if you have msn
I hope you and Marc are ok and keep us updated. Cyberhugs xxx
yesteday about 7 marcs dad who is a lovely man i was close to the whole family you see. came to my house i knew it wasnt good when i see him. he said he didnt want to tell me on the phone.
He said marc has about a year to live..
Which is the mose terible thing i ever heard in my whole life.
i know it sounds selfish talking about me now but me and marc were close for all these years and im crying on the inside. i got these temezipam 20mg things but there very strong i think i need something similar but less strong cause they just seem to put me on cloud 9 as i been drinking with them. x
my dad was given 2 weeks to live (he had some kind of rare cancer). he was 48. So at the age of 20 my life fell apart. Dad actually lasted 6 months. some of which were the best days of my life, others were the worst. What we learnt, and why I'm telling you this, is that, its not wrong to share your feelings with Marc. its not wrong to tell him you are scared, worried and so on, but try not to let this dominate your time together. There will be days where I hope Marc is strong enough to enjoy a day out, to have fun. A year is a long time to sit and worry. Learn to take the highs and lows - enjoy the highs like there's no tomorrow and try not to drown in the lows. At Marc's low points you need to be strong, but make sure you look after your self and that you get the help you need.
The mind is a powerful tool. and medicine can work wonders.
Never lose hope
I'm sorry to ramble. PM me if you want.
Peace and love to you, Marc and your families
*goes off to have a cry in a corner*
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend having cancer. If you ever need anyone to talk to PM me because I really, truly do understand what you are going through because I have lost both my parents to cancer before I was 15 and I know how much it hurts seeing someone you love and care about going through so much pain and sickness because I had watched my mother suffer through her cancer for 3 1/2 years before God finally took her home.
Remember, if you ever need anyone to talk to about this, please feel free to PM me because I really, truly do understand what your going through. I might only be 21 years old, but I know the pain of having to deal with this all alone.