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My ex GF
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she arranged for us to meet on tues after breaking up on sun. she wanted to clear the air and talk about being friends. I phone her up last night to arrange to meet. she couldn't make it because she had to pick up some tickets, so i wasnt too happy so we talked on the phone. everything was cool. so i speak to her today only to find out that she went on a date with a bloke i apparently know, but she wont tell me because she feels guilty.
i thought we could've been friends, but as soon as we finished she's got another poor bugger lined up.
I hate her!!!:mad:
i have an idea as to who he is aswell.
i thought we could've been friends, but as soon as we finished she's got another poor bugger lined up.
I hate her!!!:mad:
i have an idea as to who he is aswell.
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At least she finished with you before she hooked up with her new bloke. If you want to be friends you'll have to accept she might want to move on.
sorry kid, but you have to try to rise above this situation and move on too. XX
Perhaps for now the best thing would be to give her a little space as you probably need to get each others heads orientated. And don't be angry about her with these other guys shes probably suffering and needs an ego boost / someone to fill the 'whole'.
Don't have a go at her now because trust me you will regret it later . I did and now I'm losing a great friendship, all because I had to hate her to stop loving her.
The way she was speaking on the phone was that she would do anything for us to get back together or even just be friends. SHE arranged the meeting not me. She then thought fuck it, this bloke (whos shes had a crush on for the last two weeks) means more to her than the person she claims to love.
THATS WHAT FUCKS ME OFF.
I really wanted to be friends, but how can i with a person who has hurt me so much in the past and continues to hurt me now?
Im just gonna get on with things.
:mad:
im ok now. just needed a rant.:D
edited to say: it's worked for me
Good - get on with things. You say she arranged the meet but then earlier you say that you called her - to finalise it - and she couldn't make it because she was picking up tickets...seems reasonable to me. People sometimes can't make it to things, other things come up.
The real story is that you are interpreting her wish to remain friends as something else. I would say her having another boyfriend is putting the message over loud and clear and you need to do just what you say you are going to .... move on.
I agree
im going out to have a blinder on the weekend
:cool:
Hope you have a fab time hun!
I said she was on the rebound.
I would be pretty pissed off if a so called FRIEND of mine said lets meet up on wednesday, then they said "Sorry can't make it I'm collecting some tickets" and then I find out afterwards that they actually was out on a date, having drinks with another mate or something.
Thats the big picture here - She doesn't deserve your friendship as she is obviously untrustworthy and full of crap. Bet you're glad you got out of that relationship, you can ssee what shes really like now. I mean if she can't be honest with you now that you have split, imagine all the lies and bullcrap she was probably coming up with while you dated her.
As for girls going on new dates days after an old relationship - Doesn't surprise me at all. They are fragile creatures that need love and effection from ANY source. They always line up a new partner before dumping their current one or quickly latch on to the next bloke to show interest when they are the ones that got dumped. Very sad. Maybe they are brought up wrong in schools.
Always?
Yep. You even did it to me once Karla, don't you remember? Don;t tell me I'm a forgotten ex already WAH!!! Why Karla Why? I loved you!
Make a point of "I don't know why you couldn't just be honest. Shows what kind of girl you are. Any way, take care of you - I hope it all works out babes"
"So long SUCKER" is an optional extra.
Yeah, that's one option. Or you could just say 'have fun; hope it all works out for you' and not say anymore. If you shout at her or something, she might turn around and reply 'no wonder I'm not with you anymore'. Certainly difficult, but a polite and unambigious reply is needed, I think. You can, of course, swear and shout to yourself later, as I probably would.
Mmmm...had some trouble with relationships young man?
lots of girls do, some cant hack being single, they are known as overlappers. I am not one of these as im comfortable being single;)
Eh? *racks brain for distant memories*
Nah.
She's never been single, she loves men. Im quite used to being single, it doesn't bother me.
The reason why we split was because I had different views on our relationship. I wanted it to be serious, she wanted to have fun. Fair enough. Me being in love with the girl, just wanted to cool things down, maybe not see her for a while, so it would be easier for me to handle. But she was like "i really want us to be friends...ur my best mate, i dont wanna lose you. Can we meet tomorrow after my driving lesson?" I wasn't to keen but i said yes anyways.
then i find ou that she has to go and get "tickets". Me pissed off enough that i had to cancel a night down the pub with my mates(who wanted to get me pissed coz they knew i was gutted) and she had done that to me.
Then im even more angry that the little 'ho went out on a date!!!
I cant believe it!!!
SHE wanted to be friends,SHE arranged the meeting,SHE fucked everything up.
SHE treated me like she always did, lack of respect, lack of attention, lack of life. I was her lap-dog and i never saw it because i was blind in love. If anyone recognises this situation, confront ur GF or BF and if they dont change for you, then get out, coz there's a lot lot more hurt in there.
Not one to be a pessimist, ive got a date on Saturday ! (she's just up for a laugh the same as me, and she knows im on the rebound, so everything's cool.I think ive found myself one of those "fuck buddies!" Happy days)
you say you weren't that keen to meet up with her anyway so why get so stressed when something else came up.
People posting that women will do this to you don't help you with your quest to understand relationships, they just make you think that no woman can be trusted. As far as I can see this girl hasn't betrayed you, the relationship ended (whoever finnished it) and she is free to do what she wants.
If you can't cope with her wanting to be friends then don't keep trying...
You should have called your mates and re-arranged the drink instead of sitting about feeling bitter about it.
Looks like you have moved on now anyway but beware that you and your new fuck buddy don't end up wanting different things...like you wanting to be more serious and her wanting just fun, or you'll be right back in the same position!