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Family or Lover - a choice
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So, if you had to choose - could you?
I don't mean all your family, say one family member had a big problem with your other half (who btw you're madly in love with), how would you handle it? Esp if you felt caught in the middle.
Yes, I have this problem - my brother has a problem with my boyfriend and quite frankly I've had enough :mad:
I don't mean all your family, say one family member had a big problem with your other half (who btw you're madly in love with), how would you handle it? Esp if you felt caught in the middle.
Yes, I have this problem - my brother has a problem with my boyfriend and quite frankly I've had enough :mad:
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Have you spoken to your brother?!
It's all good fun!:rolleyes:
Your brother sounds jealous & so does his wife :mad: In this situation I would deffinatly choose your bfriend! I would understand if your bfriend had done something that REALLY pissed both your brother & his wife off but as you said there is much more to the story!
I hope that it works out whoever you choose but to be honest you should never be in the postion where you are made to choose between family & partners
Good luck hun xxxx
I recently had to make a similar decision, my friends hated my boyfriend, and i made it clear to them that i was deeply in love with him and that i was going to chose him no matter what!:mad: but that was a big mistake! they are now being bitch to me and my friend Jellygirl! and know he dumpt me, i have no one left to talk to, that arnt friends with me and him!
so just say to your brother that he needs to get along with your boyfriend cause he aint going nowhere! and once he gets to know him im shore his feelings will change!
Thanks babe.:D
He does know him - they were friwnds before we got together - that's how I met him.
Is the reason he doesn't like him any more because he got with you or a falling out. Cant really blame your bro!
But i'd choose my love any day- at the end of day hes your bro and always will be.
Erm, they had a falling out because he got with me. And my brither resents the fact that my boyf gets on with my parents but they don't like his wife.
Being nosy now, Why dont they like his wife? or is it a long story
Sorry but stick with your boyfriend. Your bro will come round eventually. It is tough though. Why have they fallen out again?
Sort of simular situation. My boyfriend's brother has a long term girlfriend of whom the parents hate and refuse to talk to her. She is not welcome round there, making it difficult for his brother, but they love me. I actually get on with his bro's girlfriend but I think she resents the fact his parents like me and not her. To be honest I'm not bothered whether they like me or not. I find them quite interfering sometimes. If I was to fall out with them I'd hope he'd stick by me. His brother ignores their plea to leave her and has stopped visiting so much because of it. I think it's stupid to be honest.
Talk to your bro and tell him to sort it out. If he wants you to be happy then he will hun.
At our wedding he came up to my husband and nastily said I have lost my sister because of you.
We have since found out that his girlfriend is having his baby any day now and now I am sad because I will never see my niece or nephew.
Basically because she's an irritating, attention seeking little bitch.
He is married so he obviously knows what its like to be madly in love, so he cannot make decisions about who you date or dont. How I see it is that the more he nags you that your boyfriend is no good for you etc, is making you do exactly the opposite of what he wants. What do we do if someone tells us not to do something??? Yes exactly the opposite.
You shouldnt be made to choose, but at the end of the day if it comes to it and you have to, then make the best decision which suits you, not your brother. But I certainly would not finish a relationship with anyone just because my Brother didnt like the idea
Good luck