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Once a cheater, Always a cheater ??
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Do you think people who've already cheated on someone always has that unfaithfulness with them in their personalities ??
Or do you think a lot of people cheat on someone once, then see the hurtness they caused and never cheat again ??
Personally, I reckon people can cheat again, but I think if there is genuine love between two people, then if someone's cheated and really hurt someone, then it's likely that they wont do it again.
Thoughts please people
Do you think people who've already cheated on someone always has that unfaithfulness with them in their personalities ??
Or do you think a lot of people cheat on someone once, then see the hurtness they caused and never cheat again ??
Personally, I reckon people can cheat again, but I think if there is genuine love between two people, then if someone's cheated and really hurt someone, then it's likely that they wont do it again.
Thoughts please people
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I personally think there are 2 classes of cheating. There is the downright low, SEEING two or more people at the same time, lying, sneaking around. Then there is one off snogs, lapses of lust and drunkeness.
I have cheated on people (the second kind) and felt shit about myself, if I really cared about someone I wouldn't do it.
Are you thinking of going back to someone who cheated on you by any chance?
Some people just never change, done it before so they can do it again kind of thing, and if this is about your ex, you are worth so much more than her
This is gonna sound weird, but maybe if someone does this kind of cheating, then they are less likely to do it again after being busted. The drunken type of cheating (the less serious form of cheating) might happen again with some people. Again it's down to the individual I suppose.
And yeah, it's about my ex. You guys can read me like a book.
Think about the reasons for cheating in the 1st place, where they petty? Whats stopping her not doing it again. It comes down to trust really i guess, how much do you trust her...Think long and hard about the past and everything.
I guess sometimes it makes more sense to listen to you r head than to follow your heart...
You could always talk to her?
Didn't you just say she was pregnant and uncertain about the father?
Bri, dear. No go area. She has messed with your mind on several occasions. I only know what you have written here on this site, but for me it seems like she just wants someone to stand by her while she is pregnant, someone who will take responsibility.
Your choice, but from my point of view it's almost doomed by the stage of the idea.
I think the same.
Yeah. You're right. Just gotta convince mysef, then I'm sorted
I do realise that it will be hard for you to ignore her.
But it left you a wreck last time. And these circumstances she is under, definitely don't point to the position where she is about to change.
I'd say that the best thing for you to do, was to let her go. Show her, that she had a chance it's over, you're not their to be her muppet when she needs you.
*hugs* and lots of good luck, dear
I could trust someone who had cheated on someone else in their past but i could never start seeing a girl who had cheated on me before.
As for your situation, from the little i have read, don't even think about it. Pregnant too? Mate, you could do better for yourself.
I have cheated before and lots of mates have as well. But we were out with one of my mates ex's of 2 and a half years and it was brought up that he never cheated on her in that time because he cared for her so much.
He is a player now and rips his gf's these days off all the time. I done it on my last gf but if I really liked a girl/loved a girl I dont think I would do it!
it depends a lot on how they do it- ie when where etc
I'm not too sure about the 'once a cheater, always a cheater' thing. I did cheat on one of my ex's a number of times with the same person - I loved him but he just wasn't making me happy and seemed to enjoy treating me like dirt. But then again, if I find the right person then I wouldn't be tempted.
I feel as if I've just been mumbling lol, so I hope you can all make sense of it
There are some people who 'get off' on cheating.....my best mate is one of them, who will openly admit (not in the presence of his GF of course!), that he will ALWAYS cheat on everyone he goes out with....and is PROUD to be a 'player'!
On the subject of types of cheating, I don't see a difference.....their all as bad as each other.....drunken snogs etc....some people might reckon that is worse, cause your partner is threating your relationship, and showing complete dis-regard for your feelings......and to gain what, exactly?!
:rolleyes:
one a lier always a lier!!! http://www.thesite.org.uk/vbulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=37218
:rolleyes:
i do think that people who are known for cheating on people like seeing two people at once, you should be wary of as you no what they are like.
but i suppose it depends on the person really because if your boy/girlfriend kissed someone one night who you had really trusted before and you no that they aren't really like that and it was probably due to large amounts of alcohol then i think that they can be forgiven,(though i still don''t think its right) aslong as they don't do it again
i have cheated once before on an Ex (not seeing two people) but i kissed a guy in a club when very drunk but then found out he had cheated on me and it was alot more then just a kiss :rolleyes:
i still felt like shit for doing it though.