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This is for the guys, cos im curious 
Do you think these days fellas/lads show their emotions more? Like the older generation fellas dont cry, they bottle it up, hide there feelings and never let all there emotions out, they try to act the hard man and they have to take care of the missus or girlfriend.
So does the younger generation find it easier to show there emotions?
Do you think these days fellas/lads show their emotions more? Like the older generation fellas dont cry, they bottle it up, hide there feelings and never let all there emotions out, they try to act the hard man and they have to take care of the missus or girlfriend.
So does the younger generation find it easier to show there emotions?
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I cry a lot though, especialy for a lad. I'm very good at hiding my feelings but hardly ever do, I'm comfortable with letting people know how I feel, and if they don't like it well meh, it's they're loss - well actualy it's probably my loss, but I've conned myself into believing that they're the ones suffering from it, hehe. I'd like to think that I'm quite sensitive and I get upset very easily. Meh.
Some people though still have problems showing their emotions. Sometimes i think its more to do with their upbringing rather than their generatation in general.
WRONG MRS BOO...i can cry quite easily and am not at all afraid of showing my emotions. i'm both of what you describe realy. emily quite often comments on my welling up over certain things and people. usualy nice things. if it's serious and grusome, then i do find that i automaticaly go in to, "i can handle it " mode. ven if i think i cant realy but have no choice but to.
I'm personally very emotional. OK, I don't cry all the time, but if something affects me then it really gets to me. I've cried a lot over the last couple of months, but I've not been unhappy. I cry tears of happiness too, even about things people might just take for granted.
I think men in general aren't very good at showing their emotions. Most seem to want a macho image, whereas I'm not like that at all. I don't mind being single if being in a relationship means being macho and emotionless, because its just not me.
But that's just me
I manage quite well.
but they also want there blokes to open up to them and for him to share his thoughts and feelings with her and talk to her with the words "dinner", 'beer' and 'football' involved:p
you women send so many mix signals they it's hard to find out what is acceptable and what's not.
I personally don't cry, I'll up to a point share my feelings with people. I think I'm an open guy, BUT there something I wont tell a girls and then you get nag and they wonder why you don't open up to them but you don't want to come across as weak
Yeah so do I & i'm female. Only time where I really let out how I feel is when i'm pissed off & even then it takes a bit of persuasion. I tend to keep my feelings firmly to myself.
Does anyone hide their emotions for a particular reason, or just because?
I'm "just because"
You? Hard faced cow? :no: surely not.
Edited to add: I can show anger.
Can't show anger, I end up crying. If I'm really angry about something (not often), I'll walk out of the room and play Kylie really loud. As a statement of my anger :mad:
I also go red really easily. Really easily
I guess I like to give an image of perfection, someone who doesn't lose their temper or cry etc (except when I have PMT but that doesn't count). To an extent hiding my emotions is the same as wearing make up- to give a flawless appearance no matter what you really are feeling, to also look the same even when really you are stressed or hungover or whatever.
Often I hide emotions for the benefit of others- when someone close to me is ill I generally try to be strong for their sakes, when I am depressed I like to hide it as I think my parents would be upset to know how I really feel.
Does that make sense?
Seriously in the "real" world I have to act this way, people always associate me as being the one who never shows emotion. The thing is if only they knew what im like when they dissapear then they'd see a different me:)
Thats what I mean, its all an act. Let them think im not bothered then nobody can walk over me
Yeah, it makes sense.
Brian: I go red easily, too!
I can show anger, bitchyness, and other unfriendly traits. But I hate letting people see me sad, crying, vulnerable or fragile.
I don't want people to pitty me, and percieve me as weak.
I want to show that I can rise above any difficulty that I might have, and turn out superior.
I might turn out the fool that way. And it doesn't always makes things easier. At times it's quite the opposite.
But I would rather die, than feeling totally useless and impotent.
Same here and it has only happened twice that people have seen it. Typically they are both male. Bleh.
Few years back, I had a severe depression and as you can imagine, I brought people down with me. I still have people telling me how bad it was to be around me. I still feel depressed or sad sometimes but I've learned to hide it at all cost.
Besides that, I learned that, especially for guys, there's always a sort of game going on to see how much you can take. You know? Making bad comments to see how much humor you got. See if they can make you break down. I only recently became aware of this, which makes that game harder.
I think the same thing goes for women. People seem to always wonder how tough you are and they keep testing it. This is why I hardly ever show emotions, and I think a lot of guys with me.
Showing emotions for guys is conceived as a weakness.
I was on the phone to her whilst I was watching Villa vs Liverpool (I'm a Villa fan). She was trying to explain how much she loves me when Liverpool scored the fourth (to make it 4-3 with about 2mins left). I could hear it in my voice so no doubt she could. She probably thinks I'm really sweet cos of that. Little does she know it was because I was so gutted cos of the football...
I'm such a bastard sometimes
I didn't cry at my Dad's funeral although I was utterly devastated. I didn't cry at the funeral of one of my best friends either.
However, now and again, usually after I've had a couple of drinks, something will make me think of one or the other of them and I'll be inconsolable for hours. I remember one year at a BMF event, sitting in the entrance to our tent, having a can of beer, listening to the bikes revving up all around us, the people tallking and laughing, looking at the stars and thinking how much my Dad would have enjoyed being there with us. I cried lots that night.
Okay....you've lost me