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OK im 17 learny 18 live in nottingham work there 2. Im a virgin theres a few girls in the office i like but im to scared to go and ask them out.
One because i dont know what to say,And secondly im a virgin,Yes ive been out with girls but i asked them when i was drunk not a good idea
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Any idea what to say etc,And do you hate virgins or do you like them more then a guy who isnt as you are like showing them the ropes (breaking them in in a way)
Well ive been worried bout this for for ages so please help but no lad opinions cus i just need females dont take it wrong way Help Me Please Ladies
One because i dont know what to say,And secondly im a virgin,Yes ive been out with girls but i asked them when i was drunk not a good idea
.Any idea what to say etc,And do you hate virgins or do you like them more then a guy who isnt as you are like showing them the ropes (breaking them in in a way)
Well ive been worried bout this for for ages so please help but no lad opinions cus i just need females dont take it wrong way Help Me Please Ladies
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Rewrite it so it doesn't hurt to read, please.
You'll get more responses then.
He probably means using fullstops wouldn't go a miss.
Thank you. It's just that I'm a picky whatsit who is of the belief that if people can't be bothered to type a problem out properly, then why should we [collectively] be bothered to help them?
*isn't female, so won't actually answer the post*
Aww that's sweet!
Well it shouldn't put people off at all if it does then there not worth bothering with anyway.
My boyf was a virgin when I started going out with him and it caused me no probs at all I like it actually. Shows your not someone who goes around and sleeps with anything in a skirt!
Don't act desperate around them, just be friendly and maybe ask them out for a drink one night?? And don't let being a virgin put you off it doesn't make you any less of a person what so ever.
Good luck
The only person i ever loved went on holiday to turkey and got married
Does anyone else hate it when people say this??
Of course its "worth bothering" if they're fit, have a fine body, and are damn good in bed. And why is someone "not worth bothering with" if they feel uncomfortable sleeping with a virgin, who wouldn't know what they were doing? Losing their virginity also important to some people and so the pressure of being the "first one" might be offputting for some.
Erm yeah, but don't you think that being put off by potential boyfriend/girlfriend being a virgin is just a tad shallow? I mean everyone has to have a first time.
Or are you one of the aforementioned people?
Well since this was posted in the "sex" forum rather than the "relationships" forum I thought maybe the matter was more about the sexual side of it than the relationship side...i.e. he was asking if girls are more reluctant to have sex with a virgin than not.
I'm not claiming yes or no either way, it just bothers me when someone says that a girl "isn't worth" having sex with if she is bothered- cos not only is there the fact that they might be amazingly fit and good in bed (so therefore worth pursuaing for sex) but also they might have genuinely "profound" reasons for not wanting to have sex with a virgin; the pressure of being someone's first sexual experience, or being scared you're taking advantage etc etc.
Personally I'd feel very honoured/flattered/complimented to be the person someone has chosen to lose it to, but I'd also feel nervous and consider the responsibilty- for instance if it went horribly wrong (yes, unlikely
But I mainly took opinion because just because someone might be "shallow" (wanting to have sex with someone whos experienced and good in bed) they aren't worth trying to seduce. Well I can tell you from personal experience that isn't the case...
Listen to this girl, she be talking sense.
*Yawns*
Their not worth bothering with because it is very shallow if they don't want to sleep with someone just cos they've never done it before, they should be honoured to be chosen as the first and the fact that the person has told them its their first time. If you said to someone you really liked I've never done it before and they said goodbye then, they are clearly not a very nice person anyway as that can be very hurtful and offensive. It very sweet to be chosen as the first and it may be putting pressure on them but the virgin would also be extremely nervous as well! And theres more to a person than 'a fit, fine body who's good in bed, and how would he know she's good in bed if he's a virgin :rolleyes: Personality is actually a very important factor in any relationship, looks are a bonus.
Well its just my opinion, but I think its very shallow to have a single viewpoint based entirely on how you'd feel in the situation, calling anyone who does feel the same way "shallow" and "not worth bothering with"...
But thats not what he asked, he asked if it would bother them, not if they'd just say goodbye and walk off. It might bother them a lot but they might put up with it, and that to me would mean they were a whole lot less shallow than some girl whos feels flattered and honoured that your her first and actually wants to, as some kind of trophy or something.
Yeah, and like I said this was posetd in the sex forum rather than the relationship one, so I was talking from a point of view of trying to seduce someone.
And think about this. A lot of people on their first time either perform badly, or make a mistake, etc etc. If you realy fancied them but they were a virgin, would you not be scared, even though you knew they were, that it would lower your opinion of them subconcsiously and make them think less of you, or make the realtionship awkward?
Well my opinion is that i think its very shallow if 1 person wouldn't want to go out with another person because they are a Virgin weither its a male or a female, i mean everyone does it at some point in there lives so just because one person is less experienced then the other doesn't mean it should be a problem
if i was going out with a man and i found out he was a virgin it certainly wouldn't put me off, it would more likely make me feel special because i would know that bloke hasn't been with every thing with a pulse! and i was the one he chose to lose it to
so anon17m, asked that girl out for a drink and don't worry about not being experienced, you never know she could be a virgin too, and just take it from there good luck hon;)
My advice is don't use the question "I'm a virgin will you go out with me?"
And Annon17m, I hope everything goes well for u in asking this girl out - let us all know what happens!! xXx
so anyway i found it pretty hurtful..so i think its a pretty horrible attitude to have - to be put off because someone is a virgin.