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Hi, My G/F Who is 14 admitted to using a vibrator a few months ago to me, and this upset me quite a lot, she said she didnt enjoy it and dont wanna do it again, but it plays on my mind all the time, whens shes not with me i think shes using it, should i be worried??
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Should she be worried about you tugging yourself off whilst thinking about *whoever* or looking at magazines?
No? thought not!
Dont worry, its not any reflection on you:)
I wouldn't look at vibrator being a threat, more of a helping hand!
Try using it on your gf if she up for it. Most girl you will come across now use vibrator.
she said she didnt enjoy it and dont wanna do it again,
I would worry about this. Feeling guilty about masturbation (feeling she doesn't want to do it again) is a problem. People need masturbation (more so int he mid-late teens than later in life) to learn about their sexual response, and to learn what they enjoy physically.
If you cannot get yourself off on your own, what chance do you have with some-one else?
And the fact that she didn't renjoy it is also kinda worrying, this implys that her guilt is getting in the way of her sexual pleasure, and again this can cause some pretty dire phycological hang ups later when sex gets more important.
I advise you print off the site fact sheet about female masturbation to let her read. Maybe you could read it yourself while you've got it.
It will put her mind at ease, and maybe she wont feel obliged to lie to you int he future.
Or maybe she just didn't use it properly
B'dum...I'll get my coat.
I'm sure that was a very useful comment.
but the main thing, don't feel inadequate.
i really wanted her to use it, especially in front of me but she was quite intimidated. weve used it once or twice together and she loves it. it can really enhance sex. but id much rather have a bird llike yours who used it without my suggestion. take advantage mate!!
theres also a great trick she can do on you with it that will have you reaching for the stars!!!