We have our annual survey out, asking a few questions about you, your needs and preferences, and the impact of our services. It should take around 5-8 minutes and by completing it, you will be entered for a chance to win a £200 Love2Shop voucher (in line with our privacy policy)
Click here to fill out our survey.
Stuff happened
OccamsChainsaw
Posts: 6 Confirmed not a robot
I don't even wanna post this but I don't know what else to do....
Basically like about 2 ish years ago I went to the sauna in the gym, and like I was maybe 17 at the time, and like there was this guy who I think was like 22, and basically I was talking to him and I thought I'd made a friend, but like, then he grabbed the inside of my thigh (you know where). And like my dad was nearby so he found out, and I spoke to the gym and they said he'd be banned but they never did, and my dad told me not to go to the police because they'd do nothing and "all itd look like is someone being uncomfortable with being gay" (I'm not even gay and tbh I didn't even plan on talking to the police because I don't trust them, but that's a separate issue). And like ages past but it's really bothering me, and it's caused problems, like I had a big falling out with my aunt over it (she doesn't know so to her and everyone else it just seems like me being angry), and also my dad as well, like multiple times he's said I led the guy on and it was my fault and blah blah blah, and my mum just backs him up and starts on me when I challenge him, and like the guy's been at the gym since multiple times, and the staff told ME to keep away from HIM, even after his friend threatened me both in the gym and in the street, and it's literally at the point where I had to switch to a gym that's like a 30 minute walk away whereas the one where it happened is only 10, because they won't do anything about it and every time I see the person I feel something between fuming and sick and about to collapse, what do I do 😭😭😭😭???
Comments
You were 17. It’s not your fault. I’m so sorry your family and the gym staff haven’t dealt with this properly.
Hi @OccamsChainsaw, thank you for sharing this with us.
-
That is a really horrible situation to have been in and I am sorry that you haven't received the support you deserve afterwards. It must be really difficult to be having conflict within your family surrounding this too.
-
It is really unfair that you have been made to change gyms and alter your life to be able to avoid this person. I want to reassure you that you have done nothing wrong.
-
We have sent you a DM to check in. If you feel comfortable and able to take a look, this resource has some great self help guides. They cover reactions to trauma, thoughts and feelings and how to manage them so they aren't as overwhelming.
-
How are you feeling this morning?
@OccamsChainsaw I’m really sorry you went through that. It sounds like it was really upsetting and confusing and I hate that you had to deal with it on your own for so long. None of what happened was your fault at all. It also is really upsetting and unfair to hear that the people around you have not supported you the way you deserved. You should have been listened to and protected, not blamed or dismissed. The way you are feeling now makes so much sense and you are not overreacting in any way. You deserve to be heard and to feel safe and your concerns should have been taken seriously. You are not alone in this, even if it has felt that way for a long time.
@Ech0 I mean tbh I don't even really care anymore