Finding it impossible to get stuff going

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• Sabah Community Manager Posts: 113 The Mix Convert

  March 27

  Hey @OccamsChainsaw, finding your own place and a new job are great goals to have, but I understand it feels frustrating after a while, especially when you hate your job. What is it about your job that you loathe? What kind of jobs are you wanting? (or if you're not sure, which is completely okay as you don't need to have all the answers tonight, then what jobs are you sure you definitely don't want?)

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• Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,983 Community Veteran

  March 28

  Hey @OccamsChainsaw , how are you doing this morning? Thanks so much for making a post about this. Working in a job you really loathe sounds like it could feel very draining and demotivating. Particularly when moving out of this situation is feeling impossible in some ways, like something is stuck? What impact would you say its having on your wellbeing to be in this job and living at home, and how would you ideally want to feel in the future?

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• OccamsChainsaw Posts: 4 Newbie

  March 28

  Hi @Sian321 , tbh I just feel really tired and angry and stuff, and like it's not the only thing but it's definitely a thing if that makes sense? And like, I don't get on with my family normally but it's worse, and basically I just wanna not feel like this

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• Callum Community Manager Posts: 372 Listening Ear

  3:34PM

  @OccamsChainsaw That makes complete sense, that working in a job you loathe is contributing to your feelings of tiredness and anger, as well as not getting on with your family. It sounds like these feelings are really though at the moment. I'm wondering, you said you don't want to feel like this, what has helped you through this so far?

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• OccamsChainsaw Posts: 4 Newbie

  3:37PM

  I mean I've been dealing with it mainly by going to the gym and writing music, I've been trying to start a band but it's not working, and like this weekend I've felt worse, like I don't even wanna get off the sofa it's that bad

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• Ech0 Community Connector Posts: 247 Trailblazer

  4:55PM

  @OccamsChainsaw Hello, nice to meet you.

  I’m really sorry you’re feeling like this , I can imagine how exhausting it is trying to carry all of that at once and it makes complete sense you’d feel tired, angry and just worn down by everything piling up.
  
  The things you have been doing to help like actually going to the gym, writing music and trying to start a band all show your strength and resilience. Even if the band has not worked out yet it does not mean it will not. Sometimes it just takes time to find the right people and opportunities may come at unexpected moments.

  About what you asked, here are some ideas below and I think maybe focusing on small manageable steps may make things feel a bit less stressful hopefully.

  With the job situation, it could be easier to aim for something that is just better rather than perfect. Even a job that you dislike less could give you more energy and space to think about what you actually want long term. If you can, try setting a really small goal like applying to a couple of jobs a week so it does not feel overwhelming.

  For moving out, I really understand how difficult that can be, especially at the moment. It can feel frustrating when something you want so much just doesn’t seem to be working out yet. If it feels like an option, you could look into things like renting a room or sharing a place with others though that might not be right for you, but for some people , a change in environment can make a difference.

  With your family, if things are tense, sometimes it can help to think less about changing the situation and more about protecting your own energy within it. That might look like keeping conversations a bit shorter when you can feel tension building, or choosing not to engage in certain topics that usually lead to arguments. It could also help to have something in your day for yourself like listening to music or going on walks to take some breathing room, which might make it feel a little less draining while you are getting through this period .

  It sounds like things have felt really heavy for you this weekend and it is more than okay take a break to give your mind and body some rest. Things will not always feel like this, even if right now it might feel like they will and I can assure you there are better days ahead. I really hope things start to feel a bit lighter for you soon and we are here for you.

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