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i locked my sister in her room now its my turn to suffer being shut in is this fair ? do i deserve ?
koolkatie
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Last thursday i had a row with my older sister, because she is claustrophobic and hates confined spaces , i locked her in her room, i enjoyed watching her kick and screaming to be let out, i only meant for her to be locked in for an hour or 2, while anyway my friend rang up and i got distracted and went out, i forgot about my sister, my parents came home 6 hours later and found her locked in, she had missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, my parents went mad and said i would be getting a taste of my own medicine , they said i will be spending ALL of this weekend locked in my room as a punishment,as i have exams this year my parents have set me tons of school work to do , including maths , english , french and science plus 2 punishment essays, as i write i am locked up and i DONT like it, are my parents being fair ?
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Hi @koolkatie , this is @Sian321 here. Thank you for making this post and for opening up about what's been happening. We care about your safety and wellbeing, and the Staff team are going to drop you a Direct Message to explore your situation further. You're doing really well to share.
Hey @koolkatie, it's @Callum here. Thanks for sharing this with us, it sounds like such a tricky situation and so frustrating to be spending all weekend in your room. I just wanted to check back in with you this afternoon on how you are doing today?
As @Sian321 mentioned, the staff team have direct messaged you to talk some more about this privately. I'm just wondering what your relationship is like with your family in general?
i am ok, i am allowed out to use the bathroom whenever i want, but my bedroom door is kept locked with a key at all times, my parents say this is so i can understand what my sister went though, and of course this is my punishment, my parents have set me a lot of schoolwork to do , i also have to write 2 four page essays, one on why its important to get on with family members, and another on unaceptable behavour and punishment, i miss my freedom my sister is enjoying watching me suffer, she is teasing me, saying that everyone is going out tonight and there will be so much fun, but i cant go because i am locked up in my room, i HATE being punished ?
yes genarally i get on well with my parents and my older sister, but as i said we had i row and i locked her in her room, now i am being punished, i am locked in my room for the whole weekend, because i have exams this year my parents have said i will be spending my lock up time at my desk doing school work, not just as a punishment but so i can get an advantage over other students, and hopefully get good grades, i DONT like being locked in my room its NOT a nice punishment, why does punishment have to be so hard ?
@koolkatie , thank you so much for sharing this with us. It sounds really distressing to be going through this, and you're doing so well to open up.
Can I ask, have your parents ever locked you in your room before? How frequently does this happen? Would you also feel able to share with us how old your older sister is, and whether you have any other siblings at home?
my parents have said i can earn parole, officially i am supposed to be locked in my room until monday morning when i return to school, my parents have said if i do the school work that my parents have set, and do it well i could be let out of my room tomorrow afternoon, i must also complete my 2 punishment essays, and write a letter of apology to my sister for locking her in her room , making her miss her driving lesson and missing a date with her boyfriend , being locked in my room is a hard punishment, i know all my friends are getting ready to go out as its a saturday night, my parents have just given me my dinner in my room, and have just locked me back in my room, they have told me to start my punishment essays, if i want to earn early release ?
@koolkatie , thank you for keeping us updated. It's positive to hear that you've got access to food, and also, are able to access the bathroom too. It really does sound like such a hard time right now, and I hear how upsetting its feeling to have so much control taken away, and to have the pressure of all of these essays.
Can we ask, how are you feeling in terms of your mental wellbeing at the moment with all of this going on?
its fine, i know i have to be punished, i feel very bad about what happened to my sister, she is enjoying seeing my suffer, she is getting ready to go out with her boyfriend to the cinema , she has been teasing me saying she i going out to have fun while i am locked in my room ?
@koolkatie it must be so difficult to hear their plans for the evening when you're stuck in your room and aren't allowed to join in with them. How are you feeling about the fact that you're being punished while your sister is teasing you about everything you're missing out on?
sorry i couldnt answer earlier, as i am only allowed my laptop for schoolwork purposes so my parents took it off me in the afternoon. yes it was terrible, my sister had a couple of friends in her room and they were talking about where to go , bowling or a cinema, she was saying it loudly so i could hear, knowing i was locked up in my room, and couldnt go anywhere, i had a VERY boring afternoon and evening, i had no tv ,no phone, and i had my laptop taken away, my parents said punishment must be boring and misreable or it wont be effective what do you think ?
Hey @koolkatie that sounds tough, being shut in your room must make it feel like time is passing slowly, and it dosn't help to hear everyone else going about their day with the freedom that you don't have. I'm curious, is this form punishment unusual? I'm understanding that your parents did this to maybe show you how your sister felt, but I could be wrong, have you been locked in your room before?
About what they said, I can see how they would want punishment to feel unpleasent to be 'effective' but how does it feel to you when they handle things this way, do you think it would be less or more effective to explain rather than punish?
my parents say they want be to feel how my sister feelt by not being able to get out, my parents have said that it is a punishment, they said they want me to learn from being punished, today as well as schoolwork to do i also have to write two 4 page punishment essays, one on UNACPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENT and another on WHAT AM I LEARNING FROM MY PUNISHMENT my parents said education is an important part of punishment ?
@koolkatie I understand, they want you to put you in the same situation that your sister was in whilst making you focus on school work and writing the punishment essay.
You mentioned they would let you out this afternoon if get the essay done, how is that coming along?
they said i must stay locked in my room until tomorrow, because i wouldnt apolgise to my sister
That must be so frustrating @koolkatie, we're here for you through this. I'm curious, you said you wouldn't apologise to your sister, what is your relationship like with her in general?
not bad, i was going to say sorry to her, but she teased me saying how great it was to be free and allowed to go where she wants when she wants while i am locked up in my room ?
@koolkatie I'm hearing that it's so upsetting how much your sister seems to be gloating at the moment. You say not bad, can you expand more on that please, like do you get on well with her and what are your interactions with her normally like?
Hey @koolkatie, how are you feeling today and how are you doing after what happened over the weekend? I just wanted to check in and see whether your punishment has ended now and that you've been able to get to school today?
You've been doing a brilliant job sharing all of this with us.