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Work meeting- carrying on/probation in question??
Invisible_me
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Hi.
So ive got a meeting with the service manager tomorrow and my manager if I want him there.
Its to see how im finding things, and whether I feel being at the workplace is the right environment for me and whether i can do the role, as its causing me a lot of stress and anxiety!
The thing is I had good shifts, but we moved base so thats caused stress and sometimes workers have said things that have then upset me!
Im so scared..
I feel like i have to prove myself. I do want to stay yes ive been anxious etc but thats my autism.
So ive got a meeting with the service manager tomorrow and my manager if I want him there.
Its to see how im finding things, and whether I feel being at the workplace is the right environment for me and whether i can do the role, as its causing me a lot of stress and anxiety!
The thing is I had good shifts, but we moved base so thats caused stress and sometimes workers have said things that have then upset me!
Im so scared..
I feel like i have to prove myself. I do want to stay yes ive been anxious etc but thats my autism.
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If you have already had meeting, how did it go?
So my probation she said ive failed because I haven't had to deal with safeguarding but I have no control over that, my manager has passed other people's probation even if they haven't had safeguarding, as long as they understand the process.
Then she was saying my need of timeout was something they can cater for but not now really as when its busy it impacts on other collegues. Thing is unless im proper overwhelmed in which case im out for like 2hours (which hasn't bee the case for a very 3months atleast), it hasn't has had an impact and like the average has pretty much worked out the same, if you look at me doing reduced hours.
She said some worked worry when I'm on shift in case I get overwhelmed- well thats the same if let's say someone has a fit etc...
I feel like ive been dismissed on my autism. All the progress id made has gone down the drain... why did I even bother trying!
I'm sorry to hear that the meeting and probation didn't go well today. It sounds like such a frustrating situation especially when the things that were brought up seemed out of your own control, whether it be the safeguarding or even the things relating to your autism - I don't think that that is something you should be penalised for at all since you don't have a say in the issues.
As disheartening as it feels, you should be proud of yourself for the progress you have made, whether it is recognised by the managers or not - it is an achievement in itself and i know a lot of us here are so proud of you.
Hopefully whatever happens next in this journey for you is more positive, and we are all here for you to listen and cheer you on.
Sending hugs
Sinead
Hi @sinead276
Thank you reply. I did read bit it was just getting to me and upsetting me and this new board layout is so confusing as well.
IIt Felt horrible! Yeah, like against me. It felt like progress made was not considered and just because of a setback its all been disrailed, could just be typical timing of probation. It judt reinforced ne not good enough, being a nuisence. Sone of it felt against my autism! But theres a slight possibility of extension of probation depending on what HR think of occ health review, they're awaiting their report.
I went in thurs to work, as like I was still in rota. Im proud of myself for going , i was worried about their being negative energy butshift was good (my manager nor the service manager were in, manager on shift was tge 1 ive had a few upsets with). Ive also now requested to have a seperate chat with my mamager about it, possibly this werk thurs whe I go in for potential final shift, 😢😢unless it gets extended. Im so confused, manager said ive been doing well so why...Ive been doing well..., I want to stay ....🙏