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Overwhelmed
Redemption
Community Connector Posts: 5,771 Part of The Furniture
I’m kinda regretting not going any further with a cleaner job I got a call about yesterday. The past few years have been tough for me, and things aren’t much better this year. Despite taking courses, applying, and interviewing, I’m still out of work. I feel people can be really harsh to me at times. I’m feeling overwhelmed again because the job was cleaning, which I didn’t want to do. A massive thing that put me off was the stigma, what people might think of me, and comments I might get. I think I just overthought it and was scared of the stigma, scared I’d get looked down on, and scared it would make me feel like shit.
I also worried about getting put off relationships by being a cleaner, but people who judge me for that aren’t worth dating anyway. Personally, I base dating on personality, genuineness, sense of humour, interests, and I wouldn’t look down on someone like that, and the right person should be the same. I know I don’t really have to tell people, I could say I’d rather not say or twist the truth, but the opportunity is probably gone now. I feel like I haven’t helped myself by not looking more into it, and I’ve done this a few times where something that could have been ideal for me slipped away because I fumbled it. Not taking it has left me stressed, and life feels really overwhelming at times.
I also worried about getting put off relationships by being a cleaner, but people who judge me for that aren’t worth dating anyway. Personally, I base dating on personality, genuineness, sense of humour, interests, and I wouldn’t look down on someone like that, and the right person should be the same. I know I don’t really have to tell people, I could say I’d rather not say or twist the truth, but the opportunity is probably gone now. I feel like I haven’t helped myself by not looking more into it, and I’ve done this a few times where something that could have been ideal for me slipped away because I fumbled it. Not taking it has left me stressed, and life feels really overwhelming at times.
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How are you feeling today? Are you still feeling quite stressed and overwhelmed?
Firstly it is completely valid to feel like a job is not right for you, and respecting that feeling is not something you should shame yourself for. Not every career is going to be right for you. But I do wonder after being able to think about it for a day or 2 where do you stand now. Do you think maybe being a cleaner is something you could try for a bit, or is it definitely not for you?
If you do decide that cleaning is actually something you want to try, there is no harm in calling them back and seeing if this opportunity is still available.
Also it sounds like other people's opinions about the career seemed to make you feel more stressed about whether to accept the cleaning job- please correct me if I have misunderstood.
If you do think that this is the case and you decide you don't want that to impact your decision as much next time - it may help to think about what you would say to a friend who was unsure about a job. You might find that your own advice you would give to a friend helps you make a better informed decision on what you actually want to do.
Please remember you are enough and that your worth is not defined by whether you have a job or what that job is.
@Blue_lily Im not 100 percent still but Im getting there but feeling better than yesterday. Hopefully the rest of the night is better than yesterday. Im still quite overwhelmed and not 100% as I say but better than yesterday and getting there as there's other suitable opportunities, this is another learning experience. Great suggestion to try it as we don't know until we try and it sounds like it might be ok , I don't need to tell anyone what I do. Thank you so so much for replying to me, I hope you're well. I hope you have a great weekend.