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Lights on or off?
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When your having sex do you prefer the lights on or off? I definately prefer them off but the guys Ive been with tend to prefer the lights on. I hate doing it with the lights on. The other day we had to come to a compromise as the guy wanted the lights on as he said that he likes to see what he's shagging, but I wanted the lights off so in the end we had the bedroom door open so that the hall light was shining through! :rolleyes:
Dont know why but I always thought that most people prefered the lights off but obviuosly not??
Dont know why but I always thought that most people prefered the lights off but obviuosly not??
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I think that candles are a lot more sexy though!!;)
Plus you need to see what you’re doing.
I've never tried it with lights off, I guess it could be fun
I like to look at the girls face as well, Its bit hard with the lights off!
Im not really that happy with my body so Id say lights out!! Not completely though.
But what is sensual;) is having the curtains open slightly open and having some light from the street lamp shining in the room.
Or Dark room and the telly on, barely heard. And yeah agree with misse83 candles.
Nothing like watching the warm glow of candlelight flickering on glistening skin.
After all, girls all over the world seem to wonder constantly why guys like watching porn, frankly we are visual creatures who require the sight as well as the sounds and smell of a steamy romp. If we can't see the goodies we obviously find such a turn on then what's the point of evn bothering.
Of course, I think this is just another indication of those who are ready for mature intimacy and those who aren't.
It adds to the fun & excitement, if you can see each other whilst in action !:D
After all, if you let someone DO all that with you, you shouldn't be all too worried about them SEEING you...
Or what do you think is more intimate - having sex with sb or letting them see that wobbly blotchy patch on your thigh?
(with the possible exception of when he or she is so pissed they would shag a duvet if it panted - better have the lights off in that case)
So don't worry - if they're affectionate enough to go to bed with you they're unlikely to be put off by that slight imperfection you're so worried about.
And after all, we're not talking blue-coloured surgical lights here, are we? Again, nothing more flattering than soft warm candlelight...
Hmmmmm...... probing around in the darkness is quite nice as well, though! Gives you new ideas about your partner's body and all...
so I guess all I wanted to say was: Don't be afraid of the light!