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Invisible_me
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So like a far family friend has passed away today and it's shaken me up! Is this normal?? I literally had a dream last night as well that someone had passed away.
I'm due in work tomorrow as well, that's difficult as it is and now this.
I do need to try and go tomorrow, because like last week was really bad shift and then I might not be in for a bit.. but I dunno how ill cope.. I cabt have another bad shift!
I'm due in work tomorrow as well, that's difficult as it is and now this.
I do need to try and go tomorrow, because like last week was really bad shift and then I might not be in for a bit.. but I dunno how ill cope.. I cabt have another bad shift!
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It's okay to be worried about going to work especially when this is only a very new thing and people passing away is such a hard thing to deal with.
Maybe if you feel comfortable, maybe tell your work that someone has passed away very recently and it has shaken you up, they should be understanding of that and understand you will find the day so much harder then usual.
I was told by mentor to just get a grip, I'm not close to them. Sge was a massive part of my nans life, nans so upset and thats shook me. More so that i even had a dream last night of someone passing away so i likr calmed myself down in the morning lije we are all fine etc and then what... its like I'm a side kick!
If I make it in it'll be an achievement but need to try. I've been having issues at work in itself (more about this on my other threads in work and study). Let alone feeling comfortable in telling them about this.
Ladt week was disaster, It took me 2hrs to calm down. My manager stayed with me till I calmed down, so that took up his time. Thrn I was out of action for the rest of the 2 hrs and did no work.
Yeah I totally understand, it must be really hard for you. They really should not of said that to you.
If you make it in then thats a huge achievement in itself especially given the fact that you are already having troubles in the workplace. But Don't get annoyed with yourself if you don't make it in, as you need time for yourself to process everything and maybe work isn't the best thing for you today. But it's really positive that you are willing to try. Your so strong.
Firstly, I wanted to say I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, and your feelings about this new are entirely valid.
This sounds complicated, and I wonder what it felt like to hear your mentor say this?
Grief and death can impact each of us in really unique ways, and the scale of our feelings about losing a person doesn't always have to always perfectly match how 'close' we were to them too.
It sounds like seeing your nana so upset also has been really sad. And that makes a lot of sense @Invisible_me .
We're here for you!
I was okay in morning but got numb and shaken and like "bothered" as day went on.
I did make into work. My mamager didbt check in with me so never told anyone. Just struggled to myself but it was this news, the music volume, sense of what do I do, not good enough that also dragged me down. Work got better after he came over to me 3 hrs late.
Yes like seeing nam upset and be like ",whose going to make this" , "whose going to do this", who we going to see" has rubbed it in me. Hard as this is the time if yr we had most contact with them and this is the time of yr they've gone.
I still really numb....I don't want v to sleep. Im at home tomorrow as well , dunno if that's good or not.
July August is why always those months where we have bereavements and like always in pairs/of trios of some sort. August is when, 2 of my aunts passed away as well one which was through sui°°°° (please don't use full word!) .
It does sound like work was really overwhelming for you yesterday, i am glad your work day got that bit better for you as time went on.
It is good that your going to be at home today, so you are able to have time away from work where things feel so overwhelming.
I totally get how much life will be different for you these next few months, especially with all those passings coming into your mind more. You don't need to be hard on yourself.
I am not the best at giving advice but I will try for you.
Maybe try and do some nice self care activities today, to try and help the day feel that little bit less overwhelming. I can't say it will help the day be less hard because it most likely won't.
self care activities can be anything that fits with what you like, so if you like to colour maybe try and do some of that, you could put a show on to watch or listen to some music while doing it. Maybe if drawing is your type of thing, you could draw pictures, it can help to draw how you see things in your life right now.
Or maybe you just want to get all comfy and put on your favourite show or movie with a nice drink and a snack. There really isn't much of a limit as to what self care activities you could try.
Or maybe your wanting to look for some distraction, like maybe doing a few jobs around the house, or going for a walk.
I hope today goes okay for you, and I am here at any point if your wanting to talk at all.
Take care.