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Feeling lonely vent

FathimaFathima Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
in Health & Wellbeing
I feel so lonely, i have such bad social anxiety and so struggle to make any new relationships, I've got nothing to rlly do at home and i feel so lonely, every day feels so repetitive and dull. I don't really look forward to the day to come. I find sleep the most interesting thing. I don't self harm or do drugs or anything but I'd rather take extra medicine to make me drowsy just so I can sleep more easily. I just feel so bored. I feel too sad to do anything. I feel so ungrateful for being so sad because there's people that have it 100x worse than me, i have a roof over my head, hot food and don't have to worry about war yet i'm still so sad, I don't even know if this is depression but i don't think so, i think it might just be a phase of sadness.
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  • slovieslovie Posts: 17 Settling in
    a person could be drowning in a 3 m pool and another could be drowning in 0.5 m. they're both still drowning regardless of the depth. your feelings are valid no matter what even if you feel like it's not, and there's no "100x worse than me" if you're suffering as well

    maybe you could first try doing things that don't require social interaction? going for a walk with headphones on while listening to music, picking up a new hobby (making jewelry, sewing, drawing, ect.), even playing online games or being in online chat rooms sort of helps me ease into real life interactions. identifying triggers are extremely important as well. it's scary at first, but building up the energy and working your way up may help!!

    you got this, and you're brave for putting this out here. it's a good first step <3
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,061 Boards Champion
    Hi @Fathima , thank you so much for sharing this with us so openly, and you're doing really well to talk about your feelings, especially because it can be hard when part of us feels ungrateful for struggling.

    I want to echo @slovie 's such beautiful words here - suffering is suffering regardless of the circumstances, and it's possible for two things to be true at once here - for you to be grateful for the things you have in your life, and at the same time, to be coping with this deep sadness that's hard to place or make sense of right now. That is so valid, and this Community is a space for you to voice your feelings exactly as they are.

    I wanted to ask how long you've noticed yourself feeling this way?

    We're here to listen and to talk this through however much you wish.

    Sending care!
  • FathimaFathima Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
    edited July 17
    Thank you all for the advice and @Sian321 I've felt like this for like 2/3 months now, 2 months ago, I struggled to control my emotions and lashed out at my older brother and my father spread it to all extended family, making the matter larger and it was something that made me feel so ashamed and I kept dreading over it for like the past month and still do
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