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shannon_164
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hey🙂
soo i’m meant to have my final deadline at college today and the unit i have left is driving me absolutely mad rn - i’ve been up since 4am crying over it lol
i emailed my teacher with part a & b though said i won’t have achieved all the criterias since ive done it wrong - basically my class was at a massive disadvantage from the get go as the teacher we have for unit 5 does not actually teach unit 5 and is rather clueless about stuff when you ask, which i totally get it’s not her fault as she doesn’t teach unit 5 at the end of the day, but why on earth do we have her then? surely someone who teaches unit 5 should take our class for unit 5…? i had this issue before at this college too, we had a childhood studies teacher for health & social care, similar ish at some points but still, two different courses!!!!! i dropped out over that unit (hence why im back in year 1 again now haha) but all my class had to redo the whole on unit 7 because the teacher we did have got it all so wrong…
anyways, she came back to my email saying “i feel that you are becoming overwhelmed by this assignment, please try not to let that happen” like omg life changing advice!! maybe i wouldn’t be so overwhelmed if my college actually put the right support in place, if we had a teacher who teaches the unit their attempting to teach us & someone who i could ask for help from who actually knows how to do the assignment, maybe then i wouldn’t be so overwhelmed…? she also said “you still have the remainder of today to finish off and if you can’t do that, don’t worry, the sky won’t fall in” wow, i had no idea that was the case, i totally thought the world would come to an end at 12pm today if i did not submit it all, just as well she’s told me that’s not the case, what a relief! she also said “i can speak with (course coordinator) if necessary and you know that she is very understanding” - yes my course coordinator is understanding and so lovely, BUT that’s not the issue, its assessment board next week so it makes no difference if she is the most understanding person ever or the least understanding person ever, its out of her control too.
i hate this college so so much - thats 2 years in a row the class ive been in has had a teacher who doesn’t teach the specific unit, or even the specific course - its so unfair as that puts the class at such a disadvantage before teaching even starts:(
i cannot WAIT to never ever have to deal with them again, im so so close - i just gotta drive a whole hour into college to sign a piece of paper for another unit which is rather inconvenient and then that’s me after today thank goodness because i have had enough!!!
soo i’m meant to have my final deadline at college today and the unit i have left is driving me absolutely mad rn - i’ve been up since 4am crying over it lol
i emailed my teacher with part a & b though said i won’t have achieved all the criterias since ive done it wrong - basically my class was at a massive disadvantage from the get go as the teacher we have for unit 5 does not actually teach unit 5 and is rather clueless about stuff when you ask, which i totally get it’s not her fault as she doesn’t teach unit 5 at the end of the day, but why on earth do we have her then? surely someone who teaches unit 5 should take our class for unit 5…? i had this issue before at this college too, we had a childhood studies teacher for health & social care, similar ish at some points but still, two different courses!!!!! i dropped out over that unit (hence why im back in year 1 again now haha) but all my class had to redo the whole on unit 7 because the teacher we did have got it all so wrong…
anyways, she came back to my email saying “i feel that you are becoming overwhelmed by this assignment, please try not to let that happen” like omg life changing advice!! maybe i wouldn’t be so overwhelmed if my college actually put the right support in place, if we had a teacher who teaches the unit their attempting to teach us & someone who i could ask for help from who actually knows how to do the assignment, maybe then i wouldn’t be so overwhelmed…? she also said “you still have the remainder of today to finish off and if you can’t do that, don’t worry, the sky won’t fall in” wow, i had no idea that was the case, i totally thought the world would come to an end at 12pm today if i did not submit it all, just as well she’s told me that’s not the case, what a relief! she also said “i can speak with (course coordinator) if necessary and you know that she is very understanding” - yes my course coordinator is understanding and so lovely, BUT that’s not the issue, its assessment board next week so it makes no difference if she is the most understanding person ever or the least understanding person ever, its out of her control too.
i hate this college so so much - thats 2 years in a row the class ive been in has had a teacher who doesn’t teach the specific unit, or even the specific course - its so unfair as that puts the class at such a disadvantage before teaching even starts:(
i cannot WAIT to never ever have to deal with them again, im so so close - i just gotta drive a whole hour into college to sign a piece of paper for another unit which is rather inconvenient and then that’s me after today thank goodness because i have had enough!!!
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Things will get better when your not having to battle it anymore. And i know the feeling of failing a unit, and the feeling on the day of it, and it's a rough feeling. Just know that things are going to work out. You mentioned the support chat having experience i think in that sector you want to go into, which is the next best thing. There's still paths open to your dreams outside of college. Keep being yourself shannon, and you'll be okay.
i give up forreal on that unit, i need someone to actually explain the assignment to me who knows how to do it but that ain’t gonna happen. i’m so so so done.
im so so glad i never have to go back there again. once i get my final grades confirmed on wednesday, i shall be putting a complaint in about how this year has been, and i have a LOT to say…
That all sounds like a lot and I'm not supirsed your feeling fed up I get the sense you've felt unsupported regarding work, course content.
But at the same time you've out this much effort, perservenrece inti college that It be a shame for this not to reflect at end and deep down I'm sure you wat to do well. Again they should be supporting you . Can you email and say your not feeling well, want to do your best ability can you get extension.
in terms of an extension i have been told “I have spoken with **** and unfortunately, you cannot be permitted any more time. **** has also advised that you can appeal to the Assessment Board about anything which you are unhappy about.” - i’ve begged and begged all year for support at college but they literally don’t care lol
I am so sorry to hear that college don't care. That must be difficult since your trying your best. They should be listening to what you are asking for. It's not your fault as you are doing everything you can.
Once your done there, you will be out the madhouse at last, and things will probably start to get a lot better without this stuff dragging you down. As for you not feeling well and freezing, that's a good counter you've got of wrapping up warm and using an electric blanket, but might i advise the addition of hot chocolate as well?
And, maybe put in a complaint before Wednesday, because you don't want to give them an excuse of, "oh it's just a student angry with there grade who complained after getting it" if that makes sense. Colleges will use whatever excuse they can to avoid dealing with an actual complaint. Complaining before the grades release will have more weight behind it and not give them that excuse.
i was told yesterday was the final day i could submit stuff so i emailed her back saying it would be later on in the night i would be submitting it if that’s ok, as i was not gonna sit and do it all for her to refuse to mark it if not. she said that’s fine.
after work i got home (at 6:30pm ish) and got my stuff out to do the work but then just cried instead as i feel so so drained, have the worst headache, felt so physically unwell then thought “ill just wake up at 3am and do it” so i set the alarm, woke up & thought “i dont even care ive had enough im done with the unit” then woke up again at 3:45 ish and thought “if i dont do it ill regret it, why should i let a college be the reason i get a worse grade than what i am capable of” so i then ended up doing it all.
i ended up submitting at 7:47am, but the way im looking at it is let’s say i submitted it at 11:30pm last night, would she have marked it overnight? of course not, so what difference is it that i submitted it this morning before she started work? so i am praying that she marks it!!!! i will have definitely achieved all the pass criteria’s and merit criteria’s i think, the first distinction as well and idk about the second distinction as technically i dont qualify for a resub for second distinction since i never attempted it first time round, but if they’re as understanding as they claim to be and previously she said “Why not take a couple of days to yourself and then submit the final part of the assignment? **** and I both want the best for you and whatever it takes to get over the line, we are both good with it.” so surely it would be ok then?
i think realistically the outcome of the unit will be a merit (if she accepts my submission this morning) as i don’t imagine the second distinction will count since it was never submitted first time round regardless of if it’s the best answer that has ever been submitted by anyone in the whole world (which i know is totally not the case)
anyways, that is the last time i’ll have to look at work for college until september yayyy - and in september, it will be a different college which seems much better vibes
I'm glad that you were able to make yourself do this but im more happy of the fact you let yourself rest, take Time out to look after yourself and let yourself think over it with a calmer head. You got up at 3 thiight forget it but got yourself back up at 3:45 and said to yourself I'm not letting this defeat me. @shannon_164 you are worth more than the college taught you but you want to show yourself this! Yiur attempted. By attempting yoyve done what you can in your control.
Getting up in the night is great determination - once I'm in bed forget me getting up!
I'm proud of you! Not because you did it but because you did the decision that you felt was right for you and for fighting those negative thoughts and experiences l.
Let's hope the college can play their part as well. Exactly tgey weren't going b to do in the night!. Fingers crossed for you 🤞