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feeling mega uncomfy rn (potential tw?)
shannon_164
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hey🙂
i’m not too sure if this needs a tw or not, or what to even write so potential tw here?
soo i am currently sat on a bus heading into college atm which i hate enough as it is because i hate public transport so so much because of these situations.
i got on the bus, got my laptop out and started working away as its deadline day - scary haha - but i glanced up and this old man was staring at me, i just assumed i looked up the same time he looked over, just coincidence.
it is so so obviously not just coincidence though, every single time i have looked up he has been sat staring at me. if i look in his direction and notice he is staring at me, he then proceeds to just look at me from the corner of his eye, assuming so i can’t see he’s looking at me even though i can lol for him to look at me he has to literally turn right around as i am sat behind him on the opposite side so its not as if i am just within his view either?
i’ve only been on the bus 30 ish mins but it feels like an absolute lifetime at the moment with this:/
no offence, but i hate old men. situations like this happen literally all the time on public transport and even the comments old men pass when im in work too disgusts me…
i’m not too sure if this needs a tw or not, or what to even write so potential tw here?
soo i am currently sat on a bus heading into college atm which i hate enough as it is because i hate public transport so so much because of these situations.
i got on the bus, got my laptop out and started working away as its deadline day - scary haha - but i glanced up and this old man was staring at me, i just assumed i looked up the same time he looked over, just coincidence.
it is so so obviously not just coincidence though, every single time i have looked up he has been sat staring at me. if i look in his direction and notice he is staring at me, he then proceeds to just look at me from the corner of his eye, assuming so i can’t see he’s looking at me even though i can lol for him to look at me he has to literally turn right around as i am sat behind him on the opposite side so its not as if i am just within his view either?
i’ve only been on the bus 30 ish mins but it feels like an absolute lifetime at the moment with this:/
no offence, but i hate old men. situations like this happen literally all the time on public transport and even the comments old men pass when im in work too disgusts me…
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Jeez that sounds so off-putting. The fact that guys can get away with this and comments at work is horrible. How are you doing now? Were you able to get off the bus relatively hassle free?
i ended up getting off the bus and literally running because i wasn’t sure if he got off at the same stop as me or not as i just needed off that bus so badly.
i hate leaving the house because of such situations and nobody is even bothered, that’s super clear - a few months ago i was walking through city centre and these homeless people who i walked past every single week who never bothered me one day one of them decided to follow me and shout after me. i then went into a shop, there was 2 police cars sat outside this shop, it was very clear i was NOT with him. i then came out of the shop to find that he was stood outside still. i then started walking and he continued to follow me, i crossed the road and so did he. i literally walked up and down same street in tears trying to get away from him while there were 5 police officers stood around one of the police cars munching on their breakfast watching this happen. that really scares me because what if it did get worse than just being followed and shouted after?
That sounds horrible, I can't even imagine how scared you must have felt.
You did the right thing trying to lose him by going into a shop, i cant believe he was waiting for you to come out!
I'm so sorry that the police were just standing around pointlessly. It's completely understandable why that would worry you if that situation escalated.
Have you told anyone in your life about that situation and the one this morning?
cmht just wrote on a letter “shannon has experienced unwanted sexual advances from older men” amongst other stuff then discharged me with no support - my current psychologist said she’s very interested in discussing this, we’ve never talked about it…
Although it is positive to hear your current psychologist said she is interesting in talking about it, I get it can feel disconcerting if she hasn't brought it up since.
Would you want to talk to her about it soon?
as for the psychologist, i don’t think we will talk about it as i am being discharged from her too - her advice has been to just join a sports team lol
I get that feeling of frustration though, surprised if the system actually offers the support you deserve.
Joining a sports team could help you in general with your mental health. But I understand that with these specific situations, it might not help as much.
Would you want to reach out to someone and talk it through? Do you think that would be helpful for you?
I've done a little bit of research and I've popped some resources down here.
https://www.childline.org.uk/get-support/contacting-childline/
| call 0800 11 11 |
Rape crisis have a chat line that you would be able to message and get further signposting, they also have a counselling service that might help (the wait list, as ever is very long):
https://rapecrisis.org.uk/
https://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk/
This is a link to a website called Strut Safe, you can call their number when you're walking alone (Their opening hours are on the website): https://strutsafe.org/
| call 0333 335 0026 |
his is a big list of some resources sorted by countries in the UK:
https://goodlawproject.org/resource/support-resources-sexual-assault/
I've linked to Kooth and Qwell, I believe these sites are available in northern ireland, it mght be able to give you a wider support network with all of this.
Kooth has a live chat with counsellors that might be helpful for you:
https://www.kooth.com/
https://www.qwell.io/
You can also keep reaching out here for help, we're all ready to listen and support you
(sorry i’m so annoying)