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Why can’t I be pretty
River
Community Connector Posts: 4,513 The Mix Elder
I look at my friends and think there stunning yet at 18 I look and dress like a 10 year old 
I don’t know how to be pretty, people tell me I have a perfect body yet then why is my stomach big even tho I hardly eat?
I hide behind my glasses daily and I wear make up but still I can’t be pretty at all and I hate it, I live in hoodies and leggings or joggers. My hair is so short that it makes me feel ugly, I used to have really long hair until my hair dresser cut to much, I want to dye my hair red and get a fresh start tbh, I’m just sick of looking ugly and like garbage.
Is it the way I dress? The way I look? How do I be pretty?
I don’t know how to be pretty, people tell me I have a perfect body yet then why is my stomach big even tho I hardly eat?I hide behind my glasses daily and I wear make up but still I can’t be pretty at all and I hate it, I live in hoodies and leggings or joggers. My hair is so short that it makes me feel ugly, I used to have really long hair until my hair dresser cut to much, I want to dye my hair red and get a fresh start tbh, I’m just sick of looking ugly and like garbage.
Is it the way I dress? The way I look? How do I be pretty?
Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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i know how hard it is to share how you’re really feeling about yourself, and i want you to know i hear you and i care so much.
you are not ugly, you are a beautiful person, not just because of how you look, but because of who you are. i know that might be hard to believe right now, especially when you’re comparing yourself to others or feeling stuck in your own skin, but from the outside looking in, you shine in ways you don’t even realise!
we all go through phases where we don’t feel confident or pretty, especially at 18 when everything still feels like it’s supposed to be “figured out”, but the truth is, being “pretty” doesn’t have a single definition. it does not just hair length, body shape, or what clothes you wear. it’s the way your eyes light up when you laugh, the way you care so deeply, the creativity you bring to the world - that’s all part of your beauty.
and about your body, your body is doing its best to take care of you, even when you’re struggling with it. eating less doesn’t always mean a smaller body, and that’s not a failure, it’s just biology, and it’s ok. you don’t need to punish your body to be beautiful. you already are!
if you want to dye your hair red and get a fresh start, do it! not because you have to change, but because it’s something that could make you feel good. expressing yourself in a way that feels authentic can be healing.
but please remember: being “pretty” starts with how you speak to yourself. you deserve to be kind to you. you’re growing, evolving, learning. you’re not behind. you’re human.
we are always here for you - not because of how you look, but because of who you are, and pls trust me when i say this, the world is a better place with you in it, just as you are!
you’ve got this