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I think the mods might kick me please help
Mausolus
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As I mentioned in a post before, I live in Portugal, but I grew up in the UK, and my life has been terrible since moving back. This is why I decided to use a UK site. But the mods just sent me a message about that, and I’m scared they’ll kick me out. Please help me. This place has been so good for me even in the short time I’ve been here. For the first time in so long I feel genuinely human. Where else am I going to find a place like this, with a community like this and professional moderation? Please, if you can advocate for me. I want to stay here and contribute and talk to you all 
I don’t know what I’d do without this place. I’ve been getting better but if that happens I think I’ll be worse than ever.
I don’t mean to create drama or division or turn people against the mods, they seem to be genuinely nice people. I know there’s some controversy about some recent changes to the site but I think what they’ve made here is beautiful and vital. It’s just that I’m scared and this place has quickly become important to me and I don’t want to leave. I have no where else where I can talk about the stuff that is happening to me without judgement.
I don’t know what I’d do without this place. I’ve been getting better but if that happens I think I’ll be worse than ever.
I don’t mean to create drama or division or turn people against the mods, they seem to be genuinely nice people. I know there’s some controversy about some recent changes to the site but I think what they’ve made here is beautiful and vital. It’s just that I’m scared and this place has quickly become important to me and I don’t want to leave. I have no where else where I can talk about the stuff that is happening to me without judgement.
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I didn’t know that was such a recent introduction. I understand that this is a UK space, but I’m not hurting anyone and I just want help, I want to be in this space where people don’t expect me to be OK.
i totally understand how you’re feeling and that is so so valid, however, from a legal perspective, the mix can only offer support to those currently living in the uk - @AnonymousToe shared the link around the location situation which includes lots of helpful info around this!
you are so so deserving of support and i really hope that you can find what it is you need from a service that can offer you support - please do keep reaching out!
here is a link here that covers worldwide services:
you’ve got this
they can sometimes take a little bit of time to respond, they will get back to you!
I understand but I don’t need helplines or suicide prevention I just need the community, talking to people like me without expectations
i totally get what you’re saying, but legally the mix can only cover a specific remit which is solely the uk - just like how we in the uk cannot use services that cover ireland, usa, new zealand etc.
Thank you but I doubt it. It seems to be a website around expats living in Portugal? I doubt any spouting around my mental health would be welcome.
aw sorry - i just seen that it said it was a community forum and thought it might be a bit similar to here in terms of its purpose.
aw im glad to hear - you’re so so deserving of support and i really hope that you can find what it is that you’re looking for!
How long do you mean exactly? Hours or days? Because it’s already been a few hours and nothing
Sometimes they take a bit of time to respond to you because they need to talk about things internally as a team, but hopefully they will get back to you tomorrow. I will ping @TheMix a mention here as well for you.
It is a very very recent change to the site and a few of us felt uncomfortable about it in the first place, but it is down to legal issues and safeguarding. Say for example you were suicidal (not saying that’s the kind of support you need, but for someone who was) and emergency services needed to be contacted, The Mix can only contact police and ambulance services in the UK so they would be unable to help you.
But if you have a read at the info and the comments below it, you will see many of us have our reservations too.
You are very much deserving of support and I’m so glad you’ve found being here helpful. The staff team are great, and if you work with them they may also be able to find you more appropriate support.
In fact, I don’t know if people are banned for it at all - this post raises important questions about the process if someone is outside the UK. But might be asked to leave?
Damn I’m treading new ground? You probably can. I assume a place like this has a decent chance of getting troublemakers that need to be booted. No response yet though.
Something weird happened though, I’m an “initiate” again for some reason?
That will just be your rank changing, it happens as you post more. Mine’s is one of the really high ones, think mine will change again at 10,000 posts.
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