Work meeting

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• Redemption Posts: 4,035 Community Veteran

  May 13

  You’ve done really well reaching out it’s ok to ask for a 1 to 1 if that feels safer. Just be honest about what you need from the chat. You’re allowed to speak up for yourself. Please take care

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• Invisible_me Posts: 361 Listening Ear

  May 13

  Thank you. Yes 121 feels easier safer. But I'm so scared! Can't even remember exactly what to say...

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• shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 1,833 Extreme Poster

  May 14

  hey @Invisible_me 🙂
  
  i’m really proud of you for emailing her, that took a lot of courage, especially when you’ve been feeling so uncomfortable at work, so seriously, well done for taking that step!
  
  i totally get why you’re nervous about them suggesting a joint meeting. it’s completely ok to say that you’re not comfortable having more than one person in the conversation. you are allowed to ask for a one-to-one, especially if that’s what helps you feel safe enough to speak honestly. maybe you could reply and gently say you’d prefer to speak with just her for now to get your thoughts across clearly without pressure?
  
  it’s also ok to feel anxious about what to say. maybe you could start by writing a few points down -what’s been bothering you, how it’s been affecting you, and what kind of changes or support you’d like? you don’t have to have all the answers, you’re just asking to be heard and understood.
  
  you are not doing anything wrong by advocating for yourself. you deserve to feel safe and supported at work. i’m really glad she seems kind and open, hopefully this chat will be a turning point.
  
  you’ve got this, i believe in you

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• Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 1,321 Wise Owl

  May 15

  @Invisible_me , I just want to add to the lovely comments here already posted to say it feels so positive that you allowed yourself to speak up and advocate for what you need here. I can imagine that took a lot of courage, and I hear how it feels daunting too to think about going into the meeting itself and the pressure of getting across what you want to say.
  
  I agree with Shannon - I wonder whether it might feel helpful to write a few points down on a piece of paper so you have that as a reference in the meeting? Or perhaps you may even wish to send her an email ahead of the meeting to say, 'Hey, in our chat I'd really like to cover points X, Y, and Z - can you help us stay on track?' so that you can both hold the meeting agenda and it takes the pressure off your shoulders to lead.
  
  We're rooting for you @Invisible_me , and I hope that no matter what happens within the meeting you can speak kindly to yourself. How have you been taking care of yourself in the run-up to the day?

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• Invisible_me Posts: 361 Listening Ear

  May 16

  Hey @shannon_164 , @Sian321 thanks for reply!
  So I spoke to her 121 on Wednesday via phone call. She was nice. Asked me questions to probe me, reflected back what I said etc and reassured me. We've managed to compile some adjustments such as : time out in space at regular intervals after each action that way it's part of my routine, managers know it's part it my routine and I don't have to communicate I'm struggling. Regular check in, perhaps day after shift so it's once ice calmed down and not immediate. Flexibility re shift times without it affecting my record's as long as I communicate. But she has to speak to the new service manager to discuss it as theyll take over and my manager so they know and they are to them have a supervision with me regarding it and action it.
  She asked if there's anyone in twam is causing me issues or anything and guess that was my opportunity to speak about not feeling comfortable with my manager and some of the actions however I didn't- kinda regret this now!! 😬
  She said she'll send me a email with what we've discussed she hasnt ans she leaves tomorrow!!
  I however have little faith it's going to be followed through especially as she leaves tomorrow.
  Nos I dunno what to do. I only work Thursday tgere ans was on leavr today and nexy Thursday.
  I dunno what to do? She hasn't popped me an email, I've not no evidence of conversation. O aldo didn't mention anything to do with the document i sent over which hasn't been read or my physical condition or about my manager perhaps knowing little bits. Is she annoyed with me??

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