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From the Shadows to the Spotlight: My Journey of Overcoming Bullying
aaliyahghotra
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Hi everyone, I’m Aaliyah. I want to share my journey with you today, not just to tell my story, but to hopefully inspire others who have experienced similar feelings of invisibility, isolation, or bullying.
I grew up feeling like I didn’t matter. There was a moment when I was just eight years old that I’ll never forget, I was playing hide-and-seek with a group of friends. The excitement of the game quickly turned into a moment of intense loneliness when my friends left me locked in a dark closet. It felt like an eternity, and I was overwhelmed by the thought that I was forgotten, that I didn’t matter. It was a turning point in my life, where I began to believe I was invisible.
The Impact of Bullying
That moment in the closet was just one example of what turned into years of emotional bullying. It wasn’t overt, but the subtle, quiet rejection I experienced from two friends led to a deep sense of confusion, fear, and worthlessness. Over time, I realized that the bullying wasn’t about me, it was about them. But as a young child, it was hard to understand that. I felt trapped and small, as if my pain didn’t matter to anyone.
The emotional toll of being bullied started affecting my mental health. I went through panic attacks and started to doubt my worth. The bullying didn’t stop. In fact, it got worse. I became someone who didn’t speak up, someone who hid in the background to avoid further hurt. But that silence only deepened my sense of invisibility.
Turning Pain into Power: Finding My Voice Through the Arts
When I was around 11 years old, I discovered the world of performing arts, dance and theater. It was through these outlets that I began to heal. The stage became my safe space where I could express everything I couldn’t say with words. Dance allowed me to take up space, something I had been afraid to do for so long. Theater gave me a chance to step into other characters’ shoes, which helped me understand different perspectives and, ultimately, feel more compassion for even those who bullied me.
At age 13, I got my first lead role as Mary Poppins
. The applause I received was less about the performance and more about the fact that I finally felt seen. Through acting and dancing, I was able to reclaim my voice. I found confidence and courage, not just to perform but to speak up for myself, to stand up for who I am.
Empathy and Forgiveness: Healing Through Understanding
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned on this journey is empathy. As I grew older, I realized that bullies often act out of their own hurt. In my own experience, some of my bullies were struggling with their own insecurities, pain, and difficult circumstances. This understanding allowed me to practice forgiveness, not just for the bullies but also for myself. I could let go of the bitterness that weighed me down.
Forgiveness didn’t mean I accepted what happened, but it meant I chose to move forward with my life, free from the heavy burden of anger. It meant I was taking back control of my own story.
Mental Health: The Importance of Talking About It
One of the things I wish I had when I was younger was a space where I could talk openly about my feelings. Mental health is still often a topic that people shy away from, especially for young people. But my healing journey showed me how essential it is to talk about what we’re going through, to share our struggles with others, and to ask for help when we need it.
I didn’t have all the answers back then, but I now realize the importance of mental health support. Whether it’s through art, therapy, or talking to someone you trust, it’s so important to find a way to express what’s inside.
Standing Up for Myself: Setting Boundaries
At age 12, I reached a point where I could no longer stay silent. I finally had the courage to set boundaries with the friends who had hurt me. That was a pivotal moment in my life. I was no longer going to let anyone treat me as if I didn’t matter. I decided I would be heard, and I would take care of myself, no matter what.
A Message of Hope and Empowerment
My message is simple: You are visible. You are worthy. No matter what anyone has told you or how you’ve been treated, your story matters. Your feelings matter. And there is always a way to rise above the pain and transform it into something that empowers you.
To anyone who’s feeling invisible or alone, I want you to know that you are not alone. There are others who understand your pain, and together we can create a space where we all feel seen and heard.
Why I’m Sharing My Story
I’m sharing this because I want others to know that no matter how dark things may feel, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Whether it's through creative expression, speaking up, or just finding one person who will listen, your voice matters. I am living proof that it’s possible to go from invisible to visible.
Thank you for reading, and I hope my story can help someone else who might be going through a similar journey.
I recently had the honor of sharing my story on a bigger platform, in my TEDx talk titled Powerful Lessons from a Bullied Teen. It was a moment where I could fully embrace my vulnerability and show others that they, too, can rise from their pain and find their voice.
I grew up feeling like I didn’t matter. There was a moment when I was just eight years old that I’ll never forget, I was playing hide-and-seek with a group of friends. The excitement of the game quickly turned into a moment of intense loneliness when my friends left me locked in a dark closet. It felt like an eternity, and I was overwhelmed by the thought that I was forgotten, that I didn’t matter. It was a turning point in my life, where I began to believe I was invisible.
The Impact of Bullying
That moment in the closet was just one example of what turned into years of emotional bullying. It wasn’t overt, but the subtle, quiet rejection I experienced from two friends led to a deep sense of confusion, fear, and worthlessness. Over time, I realized that the bullying wasn’t about me, it was about them. But as a young child, it was hard to understand that. I felt trapped and small, as if my pain didn’t matter to anyone.
The emotional toll of being bullied started affecting my mental health. I went through panic attacks and started to doubt my worth. The bullying didn’t stop. In fact, it got worse. I became someone who didn’t speak up, someone who hid in the background to avoid further hurt. But that silence only deepened my sense of invisibility.
Turning Pain into Power: Finding My Voice Through the Arts
When I was around 11 years old, I discovered the world of performing arts, dance and theater. It was through these outlets that I began to heal. The stage became my safe space where I could express everything I couldn’t say with words. Dance allowed me to take up space, something I had been afraid to do for so long. Theater gave me a chance to step into other characters’ shoes, which helped me understand different perspectives and, ultimately, feel more compassion for even those who bullied me.
At age 13, I got my first lead role as Mary Poppins
. The applause I received was less about the performance and more about the fact that I finally felt seen. Through acting and dancing, I was able to reclaim my voice. I found confidence and courage, not just to perform but to speak up for myself, to stand up for who I am.
Empathy and Forgiveness: Healing Through Understanding
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned on this journey is empathy. As I grew older, I realized that bullies often act out of their own hurt. In my own experience, some of my bullies were struggling with their own insecurities, pain, and difficult circumstances. This understanding allowed me to practice forgiveness, not just for the bullies but also for myself. I could let go of the bitterness that weighed me down.
Forgiveness didn’t mean I accepted what happened, but it meant I chose to move forward with my life, free from the heavy burden of anger. It meant I was taking back control of my own story.
Mental Health: The Importance of Talking About It
One of the things I wish I had when I was younger was a space where I could talk openly about my feelings. Mental health is still often a topic that people shy away from, especially for young people. But my healing journey showed me how essential it is to talk about what we’re going through, to share our struggles with others, and to ask for help when we need it.
I didn’t have all the answers back then, but I now realize the importance of mental health support. Whether it’s through art, therapy, or talking to someone you trust, it’s so important to find a way to express what’s inside.
Standing Up for Myself: Setting Boundaries
At age 12, I reached a point where I could no longer stay silent. I finally had the courage to set boundaries with the friends who had hurt me. That was a pivotal moment in my life. I was no longer going to let anyone treat me as if I didn’t matter. I decided I would be heard, and I would take care of myself, no matter what.
A Message of Hope and Empowerment
My message is simple: You are visible. You are worthy. No matter what anyone has told you or how you’ve been treated, your story matters. Your feelings matter. And there is always a way to rise above the pain and transform it into something that empowers you.
To anyone who’s feeling invisible or alone, I want you to know that you are not alone. There are others who understand your pain, and together we can create a space where we all feel seen and heard.
Why I’m Sharing My Story
I’m sharing this because I want others to know that no matter how dark things may feel, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Whether it's through creative expression, speaking up, or just finding one person who will listen, your voice matters. I am living proof that it’s possible to go from invisible to visible.
Thank you for reading, and I hope my story can help someone else who might be going through a similar journey.
I recently had the honor of sharing my story on a bigger platform, in my TEDx talk titled Powerful Lessons from a Bullied Teen. It was a moment where I could fully embrace my vulnerability and show others that they, too, can rise from their pain and find their voice.
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Comments
How did it feel to deliver the TED Talk? How would you say you feel now when you think about to what life had been like throughout those experiences of bullying? How now would you define what it means to be a true friend for someone?
Welcome to Community, @aaliyahghotra , and we're here to listen!
As for being a true friend, I think it’s about being there for someone without judgment, showing empathy, and lifting them up when they need it most. A true friend listens and stands by you, especially through tough times.