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Update on my life - might come back temporarily?
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ahh it is so lovely to hear from you, i’ve really missed having you around!!
it sounds like you’ve been dealing with a lot, and i just want to say how proud i am of you for pushing through and still standing strong, even when things have been really hard.
it’s amazing to hear that you’ve been able to turn things around with college, going from U’s and E’s to a C is no small thing, that’s such a big win and having that support plan in place shows how much you’re fighting for yourself, even when it’s tough - i genuinely am so so so proud of you chloe!!!
i’m really sorry to hear things with your eating have been harder lately, but i think it’s so brave that you’ve let your psychologist in and are starting to explore that. Same with speaking up about needing a female counsellor, advocating for what you need is such a huge and empowering step.
i can’t even imagine how scary the situation with social workers must feel for you right now, but i hope you can be kind to yourself and remember you did the right thing by speaking up. even though it’s bringing a lot of emotions, it sounds like you’re protecting your future and that’s really powerful.
i am really glad you might be coming back to the mix, even just for a bit, you’re so valued and loved here, and we’ve all missed you so much.
you have got so much strength in you, even when it doesn’t feel like it
Good to see you
Massive well done on getting the grades up as I know they mean a lot to you, and for not getting kicked out of college. It sounds like you were able to work with them to come up with something that works for you, and that's super positive and great to hear!
It also sounds great that you can soon move over to a female psychologist, and this is something you have spoken about before that would make you feel much more comfortable, I'm glad that they were able to arrange that for you so you can speak about a wider range of things that have happened to you and that go on inside your head, as all of these are so important and deserve to be held in a space where you feel as comfortable as possible. Being able to talk a bit more about the disordered eating will hopefully be a relief for you, and well done for opening up about these things because you're advocating for yourself! I know that seeing a female was more preferable for you, but how do you feel moving to someone new after you've spent so much time with your current guy?
You're doing so great with being self-aware about the fact that this isn't something you can reverse, but I hear it totally that regret at having to speak up. You have opened a new can of worms, and sometimes we can feel comfortable in our suffering because at least it is familiar, but with the social workers coming to do assessments etc I can imagine it has dredged up a lot of feelings you would have rather avoided, am I right in saying that?
You are of course welcome here and in the chats to talk about all of this, as it sounds like a lot of things are changing right now, and even if they may be for the better, it is still extremely daunting for you. Great to see you again, even if it is for a little bit
That makes a lot of sense Chloe, having that strong connection with someone comes with feeling like you can be more open! So feeling worried that unpacking some of it might feel too overwhelming with everything happening is valid, and I was wondering if this is something you might be able to share with your new counsellor? And perhaps you could work collaboratively to find a balance between exploring your trauma and not leading to you feeling entirely overwhelmed by all of the new feelings on top of everything else
Sigh, that sounds like it could be really upsetting to hear Chloe in a situation where you needed a lot of strength to come forward. It sounds like he has been not only dismissive, but also even defending the person who has been causing you so much discomfort with his actions. It also feels like it could be invalidating for him to say he doesn't want to miss work for it, because obviously this sounds like a massive step for you and one you're already worrying about without needing to manage his reactions too
How have other people in the family other than your dad reacted to finding out about this?
It really sounds like moving to your new counsellor could be beneficial then if it feels like he doesn't know you at all but he still seems to think he's helping. I'm sure he's fine, but he isn't compatible with your needs and that's totally fine and what your new counsellor is for, and hopefully you feel able to explain your worries about going too hard or fast with unpacking everything you need to. I can imagine that situation with the yawn hehe him thinking he's made a breakthrough but "no sorry I just yawned" hahah
It sounds like a stuck between a rock and a hard place, if it gets swept under then you still feel vulnerable but if they carry on then it causes tension with your dad and potentially your sisters that you live with (which is unfair, because it isn't your fault the social workers needed to get involved, you weren't the one harassing someone, so it seems cruel for them to blame you when you're the victim in this situation)
I'm glad that some of them have been supportive, that's exactly what you deserve, because you aren't the one who has done anything wrong here!!
Thank you for opening up Chloe, it takes a lot especially after time away I know it can feel a bit daunting