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My heart hurts so much that I feel angry, I spend all my time trying to make people happy that I feel lonelier than ever before. Iโm not living my life Iโm just surviving because ending my life is selfish in my world. Iโm tired of the constant battle in my head but I canโt tell anyone because Iโll be seen as even more of a disappointment than I already am. I canโt tell anyone in detail what bothers me because thatโs being a burden. Nothing I do is good enough for anyone. I grew up knowing everything that went wrong was my fault, born a walking curse. Everyone left me growing up, everyone walked away but I donโt blame them Iโve been trying to run away from myself since I was 11. My brain is going to win and I canโt stop that it is what it is at this point.
Iโm not copingโฆ.just surviving
Iโm not copingโฆ.just surviving
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iโm so sorry youโre feeling this way. i can hear just how much pain youโre in, and i want you to know that you are not alone in this. i know your mind is telling you that youโre a burden or a disappointment, but thatโs not the truth, itโs just the weight of everything youโve been carrying for so long, and i hate that youโve had to carry so much on your own.
you deserve support, not just to survive but to truly live and feel okay again. i know reaching out feels impossible when youโre convinced people will see you differently, but i promise you, the people who care about you want to know how youโre really feeling. you are not a burden, and your pain is worth talking about.
please, please donโt listen to the voice telling you that you canโt stop this. you can. i know it doesnโt feel like it right now, but this pain is not forever, and you donโt have to go through it alone. we care about you so much, and we are here for you, always. please reach out, you donโt have to fight this battle alone.
so proud of you
I really felt a pang in my chest when I read the part of your message where you said, 'I spend all my time trying to make people happy that I feel lonelier than ever before'. That sounds like such a painful paradox Rose - how in trying to connect with others and to help them, there's a part of you perhaps that goes ignored, and it can leave you feeling more lonely and disconnected than ever. And it sounds so sad too for everyone to have left you when growing up. I really felt that too when I read that part of your message. Again, that feels really lonely and scary too maybe - to have been on your own.
The constant battle in your head sounds exhausting to be fighting, esspecially when you're having to do that in private without anyone else really understanding. Because I can hear it feels so vulnerable for other people to see that battle - you're afraid you would dissapoint them
I hear you, Rose, and I wonder what you imagine might happen if your brain 'wins' - what would that look like?
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I disappoint everyone, either my actions are wrong or anything I say is wrong. Just like opening up, Iโve opened up to people in the past and itโs always offended and upset people and idek what I do wrong. I used to open up to Anna yet I apparently rely on her to much so banned myself so I am well and truly alone lol but itโs all good, Iโm always alone hahaha
I am a burden even on here, Iโm a burden to everyone. No one wants to deal with me I guess they just HAVE to deal with me yk
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i know im technically just a stranger, but i care about you
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While its extreamly hard, the fact that you're acknowledging the way this makes you feel sounds like a positive sign that you are taking even more notice of your own mental health here, and oftentimes that is the first step to things changing.
I wondered if it might feel helpful when you're boundary-setting with these friends to focus the boundary around your own actions - so what you will or won't do if they do not respect the boundary.
I'll share some examples here.....
Or rather than saying, 'I need you to listen to me sometimes also', you could maybe say, 'If our friendship continues to feel one-sided like this, I am going to need to take some space away because its beginning to really impact my mental health'.
Centering the boundary around your own actions allows you to hold onto control of your experience in the situation, and to set a line around what you are and are not willing to tolerate.
I realise at the same time, however, that boundaries can be so tough to set and hold, esspecially when you care about the people you're helping and you are worried about them too! It's not easy at all, and that's so much responsbility for you to hold, Rose, and we're here with you to listen entirely without judgement. You are doing the very best you can right now, and there's so much you're having to deal with.
I hear just how deeply you feel that you are burden, and that sounds so painful and lonely Rose. I also know that me saying, 'you're not a burden to us,' might not feel helpful (even though it is absolutely true), because right now, it might feel so hard to believe. And that is valid.
You are allowed to rely on others - as humans, we are social creatures. It's what we do!
Sending you lightness, Rose, and we're all here for you!