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support on mother’s day🌸

shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 1,592 Extreme Poster
edited March 29 in Health & Wellbeing
hey🙂

i just wanted to make this thread as i know for many people that mothers day can be an incredibly difficult day, for several different reasons - whatever your reason is for finding the day hard, please know that it is valid. if you’re finding the day hard, you’re not alone with that!

for me personally, i have quite a difficult relationship with my mum, so on mothers day when i see everyone sharing all their ‘happy mothers day’ posts on social media hits me hard and i just think about how much i wish that i had a good relationship with my mum, although i know a lot of social media is fake as people tend to only post the highs in life, but regardless of that, it still hurts a little.

if you need a little extra support on mother’s day, please do reach out, you are SO deserving of support! ive added some helplines here for anyone who needs them:
childline (24/7) - call 08001111

shout (24/7) - text ‘shout’ to 85258

samaritans (24/7) - call 116123

lifeline (24/7) - call 08088088000

papyrus (24/7) - call 08000684141

inspire wellbeing (24/7) - call 08081890036

community advice and listening line (24/7) - call 0800132737

knus (24/7) - whatsapp 07700165687

mind (9am-6pm) - call 03001233393

rethink mental illness (9:30am-4pm) - call 03005000927

kooth (12pm-10pm) - webchat on website

saneline (4pm-10pm) - call 03003047000

calm (5pm-12am) - call 0800585858

suicide prevention uk (6pm-12am) - call 08005870800

kelly’s heroes (6pm-11pm) - webchat on website

sos (8pm-12am) - call 08001151505

to whoever is reading this, im so proud of you <3

Comments

  • RedemptionRedemption Posts: 3,749 Community Veteran
    This is amazing @shannon_164 I'm sure everyone appreciates you posting this and people will find it really helpful. I'm so proud of you for everything and being the incredible person you are ❤️. Hope you're finding everything ok yourself ❤️.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 999 Part of The Mix Family
    Hey @shannon_164 , I just wanted to say thank you so much for being so thoughtful and setting up this space. We're so grateful :star:

    No matter how tomorrow feels or what it looks like, we'll be here as a Community.

    Take lots of care everyone, and I'm thinking of what so many of you might be carrying right now and feeling tomorrow. There are lots of feelings - all of them valid.
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,134 Part of The Furniture
    Im always here too if anyone needs support right now especially for Motherday's Day as I understand that this can be a tough day for people too <3.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,381 Supreme Poster
    Giving this a bump for the morning. I’m lucky to have an incredible relationship with my mum, but I know others aren’t so lucky. Please reach out I know it’s such a hard day for many x
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Connector Posts: 3,215 Boards Guru
    I have a good relationship with my current mum but not with my birth mum, it’s gonna be a weird day of not knowing what to do especially as this is the first year with my birth mum in my life🫠
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 1,592 Extreme Poster
    sending you all so much love today - whatever your reason is for finding today hard is valid! if you need support, please do reach out as you are so deserving of support, and remember, needing a little extra support doesn’t make you weak - reaching out takes courage!

    i’m proud of you all <3
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 999 Part of The Mix Family
    Hi everyone, just to say that we're holding all of you in mind today and I'm right here with you. If you need anything, please do DM us. No matter what today looks like for you, I hope you can give yourself grace to feel however you do, and to do whatever you need to get through today safely and as comfortably as possible.

    We're so proud of each and every person here, and the beautiful ways you show up for one another.

    This Community is yours, today and everyday :star:

    We're getting through this together!
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 999 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah , thank you so much for sharing this.

    It sounds like today might be feeling very difficult, and last night was restless. I hear you, and it sounds like you're coping with so much right now. I wonder what you feel you might need today to find comfort?

    I wonder whether distraction might feel good, or one small act of self-care, or perhaps giving yourself a little bit of space and time to sit with some of your warmest memories with your Mum, or even to share them here. Whatever feels best and right for you. We're right here with you :star:
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 999 Part of The Mix Family
    Thank you for creating this thread @shannon_164 , and also thinking of you today and your difficult relationship with your mum. It is so valid that it hurts to see people posting lots of happy memories on social media on days like today, and I hope you can be extra kind with yourself and allow yourself to step away from those platforms if and when you wish to.

    Your own relationship with your mum is so valid and nuanced and all the feelings you hold towards her deserve to be listened to.

    There is space here :star:
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 999 Part of The Mix Family
    @Rose113 , thank you also for sharing about what today feels like for you, as you try to adjust to having your birth mother in your life.

    Whatever you decide to do today is valid. How are you feeling? I hope you can allow yourself to listen to your feelings and needs, whatever they may be.

    We support you wholeheartedly :star:
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 999 Part of The Mix Family
    And to those who have a positive relationship with your mother too, there is space here also for you and I'm here to honour and celebrate that alongside you :3

    Thank you so much for being a part of this Community and for holding space for one another like this. It's beautiful!
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 1,592 Extreme Poster
    @Sian321 i just thought it might be helpful for people who may be finding today hard for whatever reason <3

    thank you - i am working today from 11am-4pm so im kinda of glad in a way because i’ll have less time to look at social media but then im gonna be seeing loadssss of families going on holiday together and seeing people with their mums and being so happy is going to hurt u guess?
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,225 Boards Champion
    thanks @Sian321 i have a positive relationship with my mother and im grateful for that because not many people have that. im here to give people support if they need it <3
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,225 Boards Champion
    awww hes so cute @Sian321 <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,157 Master Poster
    Sian321 wrote: »
    If anyone needs some extra warmth today, here is a photo of my sweet dog Rodney resting his little chin on the bottom step of the stairs, waiting for my family to finally get out of bed! =)

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    oh hes a cutie pie 🥹
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 1,592 Extreme Poster
    ahhh @Sian321 he is so cute!!

    when i was getting ready for work this morning, buster who has endless amounts of toys that i spend my life tripping over decided toys aren’t good enough and a home bargains bag is more fun🤣
    e3kqhmu6h41i.jpeg
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,225 Boards Champion
    @shannon_164 omg buster is so cute too! im overwhelmed with cuteness
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Posts: 736 Part of The Mix Family
    shannon_164 wrote: »
    ahhh @Sian321 he is so cute!!

    when i was getting ready for work this morning, buster who has endless amounts of toys that i spend my life tripping over decided toys aren’t good enough and a home bargains bag is more fun🤣
    e3kqhmu6h41i.jpeg

    Awh he's so cute @shannon_164, its the cheeky face he has with his tongue out that does it for me
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,157 Master Poster
    shannon_164 wrote: »
    ahhh @Sian321 he is so cute!!

    when i was getting ready for work this morning, buster who has endless amounts of toys that i spend my life tripping over decided toys aren’t good enough and a home bargains bag is more fun🤣
    e3kqhmu6h41i.jpeg

    another cutie pie that is cheering me up 🥹
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,381 Supreme Poster
    Massive hugs to all who are struggling today <3 take care of yourselves and each other xx
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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