jealous of women who get treated nice by men

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• independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,315 Supreme Poster

  March 4

  I think a certain amount of this is likely to be that you haven’t found the right men yet. Yes, some men can be horrible to women (and women to men) but there are some truly wonderful men out there who will treat you perfectly. You just have to find them.

  “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”

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• Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 649 Incredible Poster

  March 6

  Hey @bignosegirly0 , I hear you, and thank you for trusting us with this It can really sting to see other's recieving the respect and kindness that you too deserve.
  
  It sounds like you believe that kind-treatment towards others shouldn't be conditional on their physical appearance - is that right? And those are your values and they're valid.
  
  When you think about what attracts you to other people, or what you value in others, what kinds of attributes or qualities would you say you're drawn to?

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• bignosegirly0 Posts: 189 Helping Hand

  March 6

  @Sian321 yeah I hate how others would treat others in a certain manner based on their looks. As long as they’re respectful towards others, it should be fair that they receive that respect back.
  
  Although I’m someone who’s very introverted and find it quite difficult to trust others, I feel most comfortable around those who are kindhearted, empathetic, passionate about their interests or beliefs, and have a good sense of humour (without the intention of hurting others of course).

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• shannon_164 Community Champion Posts: 1,341 Wise Owl

  March 7

  hey @bignosegirly0 🙂
  
  i hear you, and im really sorry you’re feeling this way. it’s painful to see that kind of unfairness, and i completely understand why it would leave you feeling bitter. you deserve kindness and respect just as much as anyone else, regardless of how you look - and anyways, everyone is beautiful in their own way!
  
  people can be incredibly shallow, and it sucks when it feels like you’re being treated as less than just because of something so surface level, but please don’t let their ignorance define how you see yourself. you have so much value beyond how others perceive you, and the right people, the ones who truly matter, will see and appreciate you for who you are, not just what’s on the outside.
  
  i know that doesn’t take away the sting of these experiences, but remember, you’re never alone, we’re always here for you

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