(TW: SH) How Stuff went

ellie2000 · March 6

I'm disappointed about how stuff has gone. Would it b different if the manager other homes were inadequate. I vented to the deputy manager tht I've been SH'ing and its their doing coz they altered my thinking, was tht not gd to do?. I'm gd atm coz I'm at mums. We won at the quiz though 😊
Hav I done a bad thing by not keeping quiet n carrying on? Alerting ppl tht there r issues
I'm gd. I'm happy

ellie2000 · March 6

They dug up everything tht was bad and gd n I feel gotten at

ellie2000 · March 6

The care f'd up too by observation

eylah · March 7

sending you so many hugs ellie it seems things are up in air rn and was wondering what support have you got rn bc it sounds like you are needing support atm. pls know your not alone in this and were here for you.

tw sh

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im sry to hear abt that you have been sh’ing if you ever need support with your sh pls contact 111 or your gp for support. your not alone

shannon_164 · March 7

hey @ellie2000 🙂

i’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. you haven’t done a bad thing at all by speaking up. if something isn’t right, you should be able to talk about it without feeling like you’re in the wrong. you deserve to be heard, and if the way they handled things has hurt you, that’s on them, not you.

i’m really glad you’re at your mum’s right now and feeling okay. you’ve been through a lot, and it makes sense that you’re feeling conflicted about it all, but please don’t doubt yourself for reaching out, it was the right thing to do.

also, congrats on winning the quiz, that’s a nice little win amidst everything else!

i hope you’re ok

Sian321 · March 7

Hey @ellie2000 , thank you so much for this post, and for your trust in sharing what's been going on for you.

It sounds like it might have taken courage to open up to the deputy manager about SHing, and you are absolutely within your right to talk about this and to reach out for help. You shouldn't have to keep quiet and carry on, coping with everything on your own. You are allowed to ask for help, and it sounds so hard that when you did, you felt gotten at by your care team and they altered your thinking. Would you feel comfortable sharing more with us about how the deputy manager responded to you?

May we ask, are you needing any medical attention after SHing? How are you feeling physically in your body at the moment? Would you feel safe sharing with us whether there was anything that triggered you to SH? Please feel welcome to share only what you feel comfortable with. We're here and listening without judgement

I will share below some further support options around SH if helpful:

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There are some websites you may like to look at to support you around self-harming. They are:
https://www.nshn.co.uk/
https://www.recoveryourlife.com/
https://www.selfharm.co.uk/
https://harmless.org.uk/

You can also check out our articles on our website: https://www.themix.org.uk/search/self+harm

DARE Panic and Anxiety Relief is an app designed for people coping with worry, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, insomnia, or panic attacks - helping you to regain confidence and live life at its fullest. While certain parts of the app require payment to be unlocked, there are hundreds of free features and the app itself is free to download. Some of the apps' free features include a bank of "SOS" step-by-step audioguides to help you calm down during a panic attack and to manage your intrusive thoughts, based on the evidence-based DARE technique by Barry McDonagh (BA, Dip Psych). The app also includes free breathing exercises, soothing meditations, and motivational 'pep talks' to help encourage and reassure you. It can be downloaded on the Apple App Store or the Google Play store.

It's so positive to hear that you do feel safe and happy at your mum's right now. And congrats on winning the quiz! That sounds like fun

We're all here for you, Ellie, and keep us updated if you wish to. You are so, so allowed to be reaching out for help

(TW: SH) How Stuff went

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