I don’t understand at all 😕

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• ella Community Manager Posts: 385 Listening Ear

  1:05PM edited 1:05PM

  Hey @Rose113
  
  It sounds like you're feeling really frustrated and hurt by your mum's reaction to your interests, and that's completely understandable. It's tough when you feel like someone you love isn't supporting your passions, especially when you've been so supportive of theirs. It’s especially frustrating when you’ve even stepped outside of your comfort zone to participate in something she loves. It makes perfect sense that you'd want her to reciprocate that enthusiasm...
  
  It's natural to feel angry when you perceive some double standards, like in this situation where your mum is investing in her hobby while questioning yours. It's like she's saying her passions are valid, but yours aren't, and that can feel incredibly invalidating. You have every right to feel that it’s not fair.
  
  It's also completely normal to crave your mum's excitement and approval. We all want to share our passions with the people we love and have them celebrate our joy. It’s disappointing and upsetting when that doesn’t happen, and it’s okay to acknowledge and feel that disappointment.
  
  It might be helpful to consider a few things, though this doesn't excuse her behaviour: Sometimes, parents can project their own anxieties or insecurities onto their children. Perhaps your mum's reaction isn't truly about your aerial classes or writing, but something else she's struggling with. This doesn't make it okay, but it might offer a different perspective?
  
  It's also important to remember that you can't control your mum's feelings or reactions. Perhaps having an open and honest conversation with her about how her words make you feel could be helpful. You could use "I" statements, like "I feel hurt when you say my passions are a waste of money, because..." This can help her understand your perspective without making her feel defensive. Maybe you could ask her for more information on why she's so skeptical about your aerial hoop class and trapeze classes and trapeze classes so you can try to understand.
  
  Ultimately, though, your passions are yours. They are valid and important, regardless of whether your mum understands or approves. I would suggest to focus on nurturing those passions for yourself and try to find a community of people who share your interests.
  
  I remember seeing pictures of you doing your aerial hoop class and it looks like something you're super talented at , Rose! Let us know how it goes talking to mum

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• Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,938 Boards Guru

  1:08PM

  Thank you @ella

  Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.

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