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RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,465 Community Veteran
in Home, Law & Money
I was planning to talk about this, and then the window cleaner came again this morning. The other week, the window cleaner came to clean all the windows, and I was still in bed, so I had to get up because I felt like it looked bad for people to be working while I was just in bed. When the window cleaner came, I just opened the blinds to show I was up because if they were closed, it probably looked like I was still in bed. The same thing happened earlier this morning just as I was planning to talk about this.

I feel that staying in bed until late isn’t normal, but I have been getting up late for a long time. To be fair, it could have been a spare room, but it can still give the impression that I’m in bed. I’ve been sometimes getting up around 11 AM for a long time, and I know this isn’t a good habit. I’m trying to change it, and I do sometimes have appointments that require me to get up earlier. I also have my placement, but it’s only one day a week. We used to have builders around, and sometimes I would still be in bed, and I used to feel really embarrassed about it. It’s just hard when you’re out of work because you don’t have much to get up for. I also feel like it looks bad to visitors when I’m still in bed so late in the day. I know I shouldn’t worry about what people think, and I’m not a judgmental person or trying to be, but I do worry about what people think of me. Unfortunately, I feel like a lot of people are judgmental.

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  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,718 Supreme Poster
    Coming from a fellow late riser/night owl who has tried for years to change this habit, I hear you. It feels lazy doesn’t it. I could sleep till 12 if I let myself but I don’t because that’s just wasting the day (at least to me). But I don’t think people are judging as much as you might think they are. Especially people who are there to do a job, most of them are just focused on the task at hand (we also had the window cleaner here this morning at around 10).
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,465 Community Veteran
    independent_ wrote: »
    Coming from a fellow late riser/night owl who has tried for years to change this habit, I hear you. It feels lazy doesn’t it. I could sleep till 12 if I let myself but I don’t because that’s just wasting the day (at least to me). But I don’t think people are judging as much as you might think they are. Especially people who are there to do a job, most of them are just focused on the task at hand (we also had the window cleaner here this morning at around 10).

    Thanks a lot for you reply and good points made here.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,465 Community Veteran
    Hey @independent_ also if you don't mind me asking, do you mind sharing what you do when you get up? Fine if you don't mind sharing, I used to struggle talking about this because I wasn't doing a lot constructive but was just wondering because still now I get up and just a little get bored sometimes. I often get up, go to placements or work related stuff too though. Was just wondering what you do.
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