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Have I ruined things
user123
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I’ve been with my bf a couple of months now. I think he was under the impression my first date ever was with him but I actually met a guy for coffee before that. I only told him this after a few months. Does that make me dishonest? I just felt like it was so insignificant and I didn’t want to make a big deal about it but then I started to feel guilty. It’s like I didn’t mention it initially so I felt to mention it later on would make it seem a bigger deal. Should I explain the delay in mentioning it to him?
I told him the guy was someone from uni but he was from a dating app and I didn’t say this he did actually go to my uni though as well. My bf was asking me about an app and I said I met the coffee guy on it. He said if it was him he would’ve just said because he tells me everything and I feel really guilty. My family had advised me that mentioning the coffee and that it was from an app would ruin my relationship and destroy the trust so I felt scared to say. It’s just I didn’t say in the first place and maybe I have unintentionally got myself into this position. I’m really worried because my family said I’d ruin my relationship if I said anything. Have I done this? Should I explain to my bf why I didn’t say or what do I do?
I told him the guy was someone from uni but he was from a dating app and I didn’t say this he did actually go to my uni though as well. My bf was asking me about an app and I said I met the coffee guy on it. He said if it was him he would’ve just said because he tells me everything and I feel really guilty. My family had advised me that mentioning the coffee and that it was from an app would ruin my relationship and destroy the trust so I felt scared to say. It’s just I didn’t say in the first place and maybe I have unintentionally got myself into this position. I’m really worried because my family said I’d ruin my relationship if I said anything. Have I done this? Should I explain to my bf why I didn’t say or what do I do?
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