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edited February 11 in Sex & Relationships

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  • Riley_2001Riley_2001 Posts: 64 Boards Initiate
    edited February 11

    Hey. ☺️ Thank you for sharing your current situation with us, I can imagine it’s quite difficult for you. From my understanding and please do correct me if I’m wrong at all, but you and your current boyfriend weren’t together at the time of this communication with the other guy? As you said, you’re also a loyal person and want your now boyfriend to have all your attention. I don’t think you’ve been dishonest as you weren’t together at the time, though you did give a brief mention to what happened, which means you were honest about a conversation with another guy whom made sexual comments.

    If you and your current boyfriend are happily together, then I don’t see much reason to mention it again, especially if it’s not causing any problems within your relationship and communication with you both is strong. It’s a lost chapter of someone you weren’t with and engaged in small conversation.

    I wish you both a lovely and happy relationship. ☺️

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  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,331 Boards Champion
    I'd say from what I can gather from the messages above, I'd agree with Riley in that I think you have been honest with the situation and what you have disclosed to your current boyfriend. If the other guy happened before you and your boyfriend were like fully together, then I'd agree that if it isn't causing any major issues in your relationship, there isnt a need for you to bring it up again. you pretty much stopped communication with the other guy once your boyfriend messaged you (from what i have gathered) so it isn't like you have done anything to go behind anyones back - so i'd say you're all good.

    i'd say try not to worry about the past and the other guy situation too much (easier said than done i know) - and try to just focus on the future and being happy with your current boyfriend, as i'm sure you both deserve that happiness :3

    sending big hugs
    Sinead
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  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,331 Boards Champion
    edited February 11

    @billiethebot

    - i think its perfectly okay to feel this way. i personally would say you weren't really talking to them both at the same time. i'm gonna assume when your boyfriend first messaged you that day it wasn't like you got together same day officially, so you could have only presumed intentions and whether him messaging you would develop into the relationship you have now (correct me if i'm wrong in any of this). therefore i personally don't think you have done anything wrong or betrayed him in any way. plus like you said, you stopped contacting the other guy pretty much straight away so i'd say your fine.

    however i know it's probably still something that weighs on your mind so if you still felt the need to, you could try having a gentle and calm conversation with your boyfriend about it. whether this be a "hey i need to talk to you about something that is weighing on my mind recently", then explain the situation, and how even though you haven't messaged the guy at all since being with your boyfriend, it is something you feel you need to get off your chest to help you enjoy the relationship you have with him even more.

    whatever you decide to do it ultimately your decision to make, and know that we are all supporting you and here to help and offer more advice when you want/need it :3

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