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HobokenCider
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Apologies if this is in the wrong bit or place entirely. I am going to keep this as short as possible and hopefully avoid any accidental oversharing.
Also this might be worded a bit weirdly, hopefully it doesn’t come across as whiny or anything like that because that’s not the intention
I’m 19 and I have never been in a relationship mostly because I’ve never felt ready for one and partly because I am the most awkward person I know when it comes to socialising or meeting new people but Recently I started feeling like I’m ready to be in a relationship but I have no clue how to talk to new people.
This has made me feel a bit confused and slightly stressed because a big chunk of my friend group have been in or have been in a relationship and don’t seem to have any issues talking to new people.
I feel like if I walk up to someone and say “Hi” I would Unintentionally make the person feel Uncomfortable or something along that line.
TBH, there’s not a lot of people my age where I live (it’s mostly people above the age of 30 and Old People Who complain about any minor annoyance).
I Know That Dating Apps Are An Option But Im Not Really Comfortable with that type of thing.
I know that effort has to be put in from me but at the same time, I don’t really know where to go or where to start trying to talk to new people.
TL:DR:
I Feel I’m Ready For A Relationship But Struggle When It Comes To Actually Talking To New People.
Also this might be worded a bit weirdly, hopefully it doesn’t come across as whiny or anything like that because that’s not the intention
I’m 19 and I have never been in a relationship mostly because I’ve never felt ready for one and partly because I am the most awkward person I know when it comes to socialising or meeting new people but Recently I started feeling like I’m ready to be in a relationship but I have no clue how to talk to new people.
This has made me feel a bit confused and slightly stressed because a big chunk of my friend group have been in or have been in a relationship and don’t seem to have any issues talking to new people.
I feel like if I walk up to someone and say “Hi” I would Unintentionally make the person feel Uncomfortable or something along that line.
TBH, there’s not a lot of people my age where I live (it’s mostly people above the age of 30 and Old People Who complain about any minor annoyance).
I Know That Dating Apps Are An Option But Im Not Really Comfortable with that type of thing.
I know that effort has to be put in from me but at the same time, I don’t really know where to go or where to start trying to talk to new people.
TL:DR:
I Feel I’m Ready For A Relationship But Struggle When It Comes To Actually Talking To New People.
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I didn't get into a relationship until I was 20 because similarly, I felt uncomfortable when talking to new people. You're definitely not alone with this feeling so sometimes i found that was a good starting point when talking to new people because often others are feeling that same way too.
everyone's experience is different so i can only talk from my own but the best thing i think I did was not rush into anything and i gave myself the time to find someone who was right. Ik how frustrating it was for me when people used to tell me to just wait or that someone will come along eventually but you should definitely go at your own pace and only do things that you're comfortable with